My Dear Son,
I’ve got your name picked out but won’t write it here in the blog because it’s public. Just so we’re straight here. So now, let me begin.
Sigh, I wasn’t expecting this. You are someone I want to meet, the spirit so chosen to be my dear son. I have so much to greet and so much to tell you. Perhaps the vision I had was of you a few months back. See, I was crying in one of those moments where confusion and sadness meets hope. You were invading my thoughts, and here you are.
I’ll tell you this. Daddy has your first ever pictures. You’ll get to see those when you are ready. Just ask, “Where do babies come from?” Every little one will ask that question, and you will ask me many more. If you have any such questions, your dad and I will do our darnedest to answer but let me warn you of something. Caution: just because we’re grown up doesn’t mean we have every single answer to every single question.
Right now as I type this, you are only ten ounces, and you weigh in perfect and you’re growing just like the flower grows from a seed. You will one day probably rip yourself out of my birth canal, hint hint it has to be head first, okay? You will come slithering out of my body and your dad will catch you, don’t worry, while I’m pushing like hell to get you out. When you do come out, you may greet me with your musical cries, whimpers, whatever you want to do to say, “Hello mommy, it’s your son. Feed me!” Whatever it is you want to do about things, just do it. Let me tell you more about the world you will live in, maybe you’ll see this dated December 8 before you were born and think, what was Mom thinking she’d write?
First, this world is a tough one. It’s a doozy. Men everywhere don’t have it easy, but to be fair, women don’t either. Trust me, you’ll understand when I tell you. I will probably have a thousand times the pain of just stomach aches, and that’s childbirth in a nutshell. Your father will never truly get it, like he doesn’t have the same innards I do, so he will know but he can’t feel the same pain I will. Please don’t talk to me when you’re here about the pain of contractions, I don’t want you to worry, only listen. I might scream like a banshee, warning of death and destruction, or I might let out a low scream, who knows. Don’t get any ideas from TV and films, just when you’re ready, I’ll see what I can do to show you how you got here.
Men have it harder though these days because everybody says stuff about them which half the time doesn’t make sense. There was a five year old boy in Canyon City who was almost charged with sexual harassment for giving someone a hug for crying out loud, but trust me, you’re like just a little boy. Hug me as hard as you want, and you can hug all the kids in your class, and hugs are good for you. Don’t worry about the PC weird teacher types who say, “But boys aren’t supposed to touch girls this way” or “your son hugs everybody” like it’s a dirty thing. But that’s not the only thing.
you might come across someone in your play groups that might call you names, try to take your stuff, kick you off to the side, so you will have to learn to use your head, your heart, your words, and as a last resort, your body and feet and hands to say, “Stop it, you don’t have a right to treat me like this.” you will learn diplomacy before any physical stuff, that’s how an ex of mine learned it.
Your father and I want the best for you, and we see a bright future in a tough as nails world that doesn’t like just anyone. You will have a loving set of people, including your parents, who will cuddle you, but not coddle you, love you and hold you, but not overdo it, and we won’t ignore you because that’s just us. We love you. When you’re older, my son, you will near die laughing perhaps because this post is just me trying to be tender and at times funny, and if you do end up being a comic, just try to crack the whole world up. Just beware you’ll have to clean up some raw egg yolks afterwards. You’ll need a towel or a few fresh rags, trust me I know what I’m talking about.
Along the way, you will meet girls and some guys. Let me tell you about girls. girls are cool, you have nothing to be afraid of for the most part about girls. Just be wary of the preppy ones, the ones who get everything handed to them and just sign up for the cheerleading squad. IF you should dance, don’t be afraid to lift your ballerina partners up off the stage platform floor, and let her twirl. One thing I will say, however, is that if you see a girl in need of some Playtex, pads and such, just go buy them for her. IF you don’t have enough dough for that, boy, just let her borrow your coat and put her in a safe spot. Girls like that, and we will be forever grateful for this action if you decide to do it. If your hair grows long, I promise you, my son, you will be as hot and very Bohemian as your father. He is quite the musician, and he will show you a lot. We will teach you to play the keys, but if you decide you’re a drummer, we’ll still smile and congratulate you. IF you should conduct a symphony, we will be forever proud of you.
Just do us a few things, favors, okay? One, be a strong and faithful man. If you like having a lot of people about you, just let them feel safe and special with you. When you come out initially, you won’t probably remember all this, but believe me, when you turn the age of majority, you’ll thank us in the end. My son, if you should ever see your father and cross swords with him, think as if you’re Luke Skywalker. Always remember, both of us have good in our hearts, and you will never want for anything. I have a miniature anecdote to share with you.
Some months back, I wrote a letter to the fat guy, yeah Santa Claus. You will one day be thrown in the lap of such stranger, with our permission and agreement of course, and the guy will likely have a huge beard and white hair, probably will be in his eighties, whatever. IF he asks you what you want for Christmas, you can tell him you want a skateboard. You can say you want pink clothes, real guys can wear pink honestly, and you could say you just wanna fix Mommy’s rosebushes and all the other crazy stuff you can come up with. I’m not purchasing a Paint Ball gun though, please don’t ask me or anyone else, my brother did that and got a firm no from Mom, and there’s good reason for that. Trust in our wisdom, you will understand.
Also, Christmas isn’t about getting. Remember that. It’s about giving rather than getting, right? Just when you see Sally from the Peanuts gang even mention that, you’ll laugh your head off. I can’t wait to hear you laugh, because laughter is the best medicine.
Anyhow, I wrote a letter to Santa Claus asking for a child. I said the child will be raised to believe in him, love his mother and father, and it might as well be the greatest gift on Earth. My dear son, you are the greatest gift a mother and father could ask for. I would kill to have any baby, and I waited so long to have you. I’l tell you that story later, when you’re older and wiser and able to discern stuff better.
When you get here, first of all, your brain will have done some growing, and it’s awesome. You will be able to do the basics, including feed, poop, drool, burp and spit in my face, his face, all that. Don’t fret, we’ve got this.
When you are here, my dear son, I will make for darn sure you are properly named. We’re excited to meet you and hold your tiny hand, let it wave in the air. I wonder how tall you will be. I hope you grow to be taller than Dad, trust me, my male relatives are gigantic, that is compared to your dad. He’s only five feet ten inches tall, and when you grow to be about six feet, maybe a couple more inches, you will tower head and shoulders above him and all the rest of the basketball team. Speaking of which, will you be the kind of guy who likes basketball? I hope so, but if you don’t, remember your likes and interests are welcome with us.
LEt me just throw in a few small pointers but very important ones. First, if you’re quiet, that’s not really as bothersome as the fact that I and your father can’t see. Our eyes will only open when we want to clean out the sleepy sand. Don’t worry, you get the same scenario with your eyes, but if yours open and you can see, that doesn’t bother us really. But with us, we want you to be vocal and let us know if you need something. You know that when you’re hungry, just don’t worry just tell us. When you get to talking, talk all you wanna, we need to hear that. IF you wanna show us something, a brightly colored toy, a cup of some water, if you want something, in one way or another, tell us. We’re here for this reason. Just don’t sit and point at something, show us what you want from us, like if you want a drink, just bring us that tippy cup on the counter you like. That’s what we want.
We will enjoy every moment spent with you and it will be a grand life you will live, though interlaced with tough moments. There might be times you will be tempted to mess around, grab your punching bag fists and do something crazy, but you might also be tempted to empty my pantry or your father’s food stocks, especially when you have a serious growth spurt. I’ll tell you how that works, especially when you are older.
IF you’re super lanky when you turn fourteen, maybe a bit younger, I’m gonna be serious. Drink ensure. It works. My mother who thinks she’s not your Grandma, she did this to your uncles, both of whom were track stars in their high school days. Your daddy was a wrestling person, so you’ll get to experience a bit of that. Remember though, if you want to be big and strong like we are, eat something. Eat some fruits, apples are delicious, and vegetables, onions and broccoli included. Don’t worry about spicy peppers too much, not till you’re able to tolerate all the heat flying out of your mouth. Your dad is crazy about spices, but we’ll make sure you’re acclimated to as much and as many foods as possible. In the near future, I’m thoroughly looking forward to nourishing you with all the milk, as much as you would need, and giving you plenty of kisses and hugs, like way too many of those, I’m kidding, but promise I won’t smother you like a chimichanga or a burrito covered with red chili. You will enjoy all this, sure, the burrito and such, but I swear I won’t kiss you so many times you think it’s not cool. Let me know if something’s not cool.
Remember this though, when the time comes for us to part ways and you to live in the big world beyond my arms, my home, your father’s arms, his home, beyond us parents, we’ll just be a phone call away. Be good, promise us you’ll behave yourself and mind your stuff, p’s and q’s, all that. We’ll miss you, bunches and loads, when you go off somewheres, college or someplace abroad, and you can do whatever you want. If you join the army, I don’t know what I will think of it. Navy? Same thing, but there are so many things you can do.
When you meet your life partner or partners, just bring them on over and we will welcome both male and female ones with open arms. You can choose from any flower in the garden, any fish in the sea. Just be patient, you will be rewarded in this life, and when you do good things, change this world and revolutionize the way people do stuff, you will yield so much. Your father and I will be proud of you, that is so proud that you will be our baby. So no matter how far you go, no mountains or valleys or oceans apart from us will ever change how we will always love and cherish you. It might sound a bit childish to say this when you’re old and manly enough, not sure exactly, but remember if you get homesick, weep or long for my good cooking, hugs and kisses, and all the things I could say about you which will be nothing but good, remember that I might not always be there to hold your hand as you climb mountains, but you will always have a piece of both of us. Our hugs and kisses will be with you always. As in Star Wars, I might say, the force will be with you always. So will my embrace, my kiss, his big warm smile, all of the people in your circle. There will never be a day that goes by that I don’t think of you, that you will always be on your parents’ minds. I know your dad’s a bit scared of this world being tough on guys, but be yourself. Be you. Let us see what you will become. We can’t wait to take you to your first outings, your first fair, your first vacation and we will celebrate Christmas with you, sweet boy. We will shower you with love, some toys, but a lot of practical experiences. Feel free to tell your parents what you’d like to do, not just get, for your birthday and Christmas. My family honestly wasn’t that great with this sort of stuff, so you’ll be lucky.
I will never stop loving you, my son, and your father and I are so blessed to have you in our lives.
We can’t wait.
Love,
Your mother and father
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