THe Comparison Between Donald Trump and Hitler, Justified by Action and One Woma’ns Story of Twisted FamilyI ssues

Dear Readers,

What do Donald Trump and Adolf Hitler have in common? Many things. I’ll name a few:

Donald and Adolf were both narcissistic.

Both hate a certain kind of ethnic nationality or religious group. Hitler hated Jews and those who were not Nazi sympathizers, Trump hates Muslims and anyone who takes wealth from him. Like blacks and those who aren’t Trump party sympathizers.

Both banned people from coming to their country.

Both have emboldened suspicious minds.

Both are supremacists. White supremacists.

What do their differences have to do with it? Very little.

Let me say though that Hitler had the most twisted and stupid mind of any evil man. He wrote a book that detailed how white tall people with blonde hair and blue eyes were to rule the world, create a Aryan master superrace. Sounds almost no different than Donald’s manifestos and tyrades against women, Muslims, people with disabilities, etc. We must put him in check or the following story could repeat itself.

It was during the time of Hitler’s Third Reich that conquered Sudetenland, the Czech countries, the Balkans. Little Erika Matko was a happy baby, playing with her older siblings, being the normal child with golden hair and blue eyes, just an adorable little one. Then one day, a terrible thing happened. Erika was kidnapped and then adopted out and placed by the Liebensborn program, a twisted and evil attempt to “germanize” children in the conquered Sudetenland and Balkan satellite states. She was forcibly renamed Ingrid at that point, vaccinated at a Liebensborn home in Germany, then left with a Nazi sympathizing couple, a couple with a dark and brutal history. Herman and Geisla adopted Erika, now Ingrid, and tried to raise her as one of Hitler’s supposed hopefuls, to become a “mother” for a Nazi child someday. At least that would’ve been her destiny had the Allied command not won control of Germany, Italy and Japan. Ingrid’s life changed, she and her adopted brother Deitma were taken to different places in Germany, but Ingrid made a life for herself under the professional apprenticeship of Geisla as a therapist, later working for years with children with disabilities. But Ingrid’s mysterious birth family problems kept bothering for years, until she scrambled through the Nuremberg files and found charts, charts, and more charts detailing the placement of Liebensborn children, both full bred of “good blood” and stolen like the woman had been at birth. She found out later by DNA test that she was related to a Johan Matko who survived prison and exile, only at the expense of losing a daughter and misnaming another as her, Erika Matko. Her full memoir is available on bookshelves for your reading pleasure, but I’d recommend reading this book. It is powerful, deep, and will have you shaking at the edge of your seat, wondering if Ingrid would find herself. The old woman is now bringing hope to others who were liebensborn babies, and there’s more to it than this. IF we don’t put Trump in check, we will have a second Liebensborn program installed here, though under a different name and with different criteria. What would this all look like? We must put this Presidential hothead in check or who knows how many little Erika/Ingrids we will meet on a roadside. We could end up with a story like the next and following vignette.

Hitler not only targeted Jews and those he conquered, he also targeted adults with disabilities. There were many children with disabilities in what he called the Children’s Killing Program, and the t4 Adult Killing Program. Just give a few years, we will have no where else to go with that statement. Hitler’s Forgotten Victims is a book that tells the story of blind women sterilized, deaf women who can’t have pleasurable sex lives because the Nazi regime stole it from them, and many thousands of disabled babies and adults alike killed with cyanide or euthanized at what old Ron Wollford called “euthanasia camps.” I remember vaguely hearing about these euthanasia camps, they starved children and adults in their “care” until they died. Then, a letter would be sent to the person’s family with a stamp of evil: Heil Hitler. What will we do with Trump’s name? Will we kill our fellow citizens and say, “all hail Trump?” This is beginning to scare me. We must remember that Pope Francis said it best. He puts it like this, to paraphrase a recent quote, when we get angry, we lose our judgment and better conscience. WE are impulsive, and like the ones who voted Hitler in, we let anger dictate the consequences and listen to too much propaganda and slogans like the ones both the Donald and Hitler used to win their peoples over. Pope Francis doesn’t like Trump, and I don’t think he’d like Pence. Pence was a bigot signing a law in Indiana banning gays and lesbians from complaining if they didn’t have rights. Do we want another Hitler? IF you don’t want another Nazi Germany or a World War III, please read Hitler’s Forgotten Children written by Ingrid von Ulhaffen, the woman I mentioned before, and Hitler’s Forgotten Victims. Read up on the Third Reich as much as possible, and I dare you to translate the propaganda machine films that Hitler was in. We need something to stop the propaganda. And if you are super studious, do not comply with Trump’s orders. There you have it, folks. Just be careful.

Beth

A Very Brief Intro to Care for a Disabled Person: the 101, 102, and Some Biz

Dear Readers,

How many of us reading my blog are disabled? Raise your hand, and if not your hand, raise your eyebrows, raise your foot, whatever it is just raise something. Haha just kidding. You don’t have to do that.

The reason I ask is because I’m wondering of those disabled readers of my blog, how many of you do care of some sort? Homemaker? Nurse care? WHatever it is, just say it.

YOu don’t have to be shameful about it, just say what you will.

Anyway, I have a few confessions to make: the home care system is not consistent in all states.

Why?

In some metropolitan ones like New York and Massachusetts, where disability is more acceptable and respected, the power goes straight to the consumer. I should have this same overt power in Colorado, but I’m planning on this altogether.

For one, I’m concerned. I had five different aids, personal home assistants, go through my doors, and no long term relationship built on trust could be established. What professionalism, you might ask? As someone who barely has enough friends in state to even talk about these frustrations with, I have none other than my FB and blog to voice my concerns, and I’m concerned that third parties think they know what’s best for me.

Trent and myself researched a company in New York, based there, that puts the power of hiring, firing, and all that in the hands of the consumer. I’d rather do that kind of modeling other than traditional healthcare models. Why? Because I have a few folks I could train to be personal assistants, and they could do almost anything they feel is needed, according to the plan and stuff.

God forbid if I had a broken leg, I would need someone there other than Trenton, someone to give him a break mainly, to help with dressing and bathing and other tasks that might be painful to do with a broken leg. I want the power to fire any caregiver who is not checked out on criminal backgrounds, or someone my caseworker, fiance, and myself all deem giving you the willies, if you know what I mean.

So here, for your satisfaction, is a brief intro in layman’s terms, to navigating your own personal care plan and action upon it.

First, you should apply for services for the blind and disabled if offered in your state. Make sure you qualify and all that jazz. Paperwork from doctors is essential, and I won’t go into all that Medicalese.

Second thing, the hiring and screening process. Step 2 of this guide is simple. IF a caregiver gives you the weirdest feelings, don’t hire him/her. Always hire someone if they check out on criminal backgrounds as mentioned before, like if they don’t have an arrest record dealing with disability or fraud. I would never, for instance, hire a stray dog from some homeless shelter who has a long criminal past for a caregiver. I would, however, hire someone with good references and a great med background. Someone who went to nursing school and can deal with disabled people should be first on your list.

Once the hiring process is done, you get to choose what if any tasks should be on a thing called a plan of care, and how to complete said tasks. IF you are approved for medical help, make sure you tell your nurse or aid where the meds are stored. Don’t forget if you hire a homemaker, she is able to prep food for you in the desired way. Don’t be shy about asking questions.

With consumer directed choices style healthcare, you are responsible for logging in the caregiver’s hours, and that’s a simple thing that we all do at work. IF she’s not performing the roles she should, you can deal with it yourself. As any good employer should know, firing is essential to keep the things in your home safe if they’ve been taken, or essential to keeping confidentiality if someone is trying to deny you services and stuff. Now, here’s one more thing.

IF you fire someone, you can go back to step 2 and the hiring process all over again. Remember the screening strategy, make sure the person tells you about any weird activities in his/her past.

Anyway, home care 101 pretty simple stuff. DIsabled people, depending on their disabilities, can benefit from home and healthcare of some sort. Doctors, physicians, etc., who knows. Home health aids can help read the mail, do medical tasks if needed, and help in case of injury. An aid’s responsibility should be to care for the individual as he/she sees fit. With this in mind, I think I’ll switch. I want more power over the people who come and go, not a sighted supervisor who is able to bother if anything.

My Take on an Inaugural Address

Dear Readers,

If Trump read this post, he’d be surprised that he’s trying to resonate in my opinion with all of us, but he of course left out disabled people. President Trump and his inaugural speech did not enliven me once, not at all after the applause. I cannot give Trump his blessing on my finances, nor can he fix the unemployment rate of disabled people. Just wait, we’ll lose all disabled workers, and our jobs will be at stake. The Donald is also paranoid, a germophobe, and somehow he could be considered other phobes as well. Since he’s privileged and rich, I can’t say he’s a good guy. The man is clinically a narcissist as I’ve said in some posts prior. I want to continue writing, but if he has his way, all my thoughts will be censored, which I won’t tolerate. Freedom of the press and speech are important to me, especially if you’re talking about Muslims and blind people and their rights. I have every god given right to have an opinion, which should also include the opinion that guardianships should be outlawed. Why do you think I say this? Because this is a free country. But not free in the sense that a rich man can take away my dreams as a person with a disability.

I want to starrt a home business. However, not being able to sign contracts would negatively impact this. It is awful that someone would also take away the right to marry the person you love, and marriage guardianships should most definitely be outlawed and declared unconstitutional because it bans people from making a choice based on freedom of choice. My parents don’t think I should be married alon the lines of a black man, or a man with a disability. But I don’t like able sighted men for the very reason that they could abuse, use, and financially misguide me into something worse. Dan, a homeless man from Denver, is one such. He stayed with Trent and I for a week and some, but the apartment building kicked him out because of smoking dope. We weren’t aware of someone like that smoking dope. Unfortunately, I got a violation letter because of this man, whose name I’ve changed for privacy concerns. He is not allowed back on the property and he had stolen my suitcase. I need a new one, but how to buy a new rolling suitcase like the one I had! I don’t know.

It’s scenarios like these that drive paternalistic viewpoints like my mom and dad’s view that I don’t know what’s best for myself. Well, I do. I want to live with a man that understands and loves and will protect me, no fake love, no convenience marriage at all. I don’t marry rich brats who steal. Like the Donald for instance. I would probably not get into bed with a man like that for the sole reason that I don’t know how he’s gonna act around a blind woman, period. He’s gonna entertain his wife with all the glorious past life he had, bullshit the rest. But I wouldn’t get in bed with a rich man because I don’t know rich men. I don’t want a rich man, period.

DegrassiAwesome TV Show and Why It’s Awesome

The title might sound mightily juvenile, at least to some people, but I’m really not kidding. I have found a really great teenage appropriate flick to binge watch, and it’s something I confess deeply that I think is better than just some boring adult soap opera. Fifteen, the old Nickolodeon show is a soap opera because all it talks about is who’s dating who, but Degrassi and shows like it bring up little and big issues among teenagers. Let’s talk about it.

Degrassi has had a long and proud history on TV, but the Next Class series strikes me a lot in different ways. One thing it brings up frequently is race and racist “tolerance” or “zero tolerance for fighting” policies. When Tiny Bell, one of the black boys, is suspended for five days in school for fighting a guy who sucker punched him first, he gets help from Lola and other students who feel he was treated unfairly. Another issue plagues the school volleyball team, which is previously accused of racism after a monkey drawing surfaces during a game against Northern Tech High School. WEll, let me just say the girl who did it came from a highly troubled family. It’s interesting to see what Frankie Hollingsworth does to try to fix the situation, but she’s forced off the team without suspension. But after Tiny’s fight incident, Principal Simpson is forced to look further at the racially applied things such as zero tolerance that promote rape and dangerous outlooks for the students of color.

Why am I writing this now? THis is a bit fitting for MLK Jr. Day as racism is on its way out, but as I stated on Facebook, only by 85%. Why 85%? First, let’s look at the way African American youths are treated.

First, you got Michael Brown and other young boys being shot in all cities all over the nation. Denver has had its share but we don’t frequently make the news. Ferguson, MO, however, made the news because its justice system was corrupted in favor of whites. Ferguson is almost 99% black, and after violence rocked the city, the DOJ got involved. As a white woman watching this, you might think I would not sympathize or empathize with the protesters, but I do. Some people simply don’t know how to act and do maladaptive behaviors to get attention, which is what about 60% of the protesters in the news were doing, thus curfews were placed on citizens. Especially the young, and that’s how it should be because juvenile crime is up at night a lot during these times.

The National Guard was activated in Ferguson, which scares even me. I felt scared for all the residents over there. Like how is the community going to trust police anymore? Black people about 80% of the time don’t trust police due to generations of Jim Crow, oppression, and racist bigots. This is what the Degrassi teens are talking about.

ANother issue I found in Degrassi that I could relate to was the issue of cyberbullying and domestic violence and harassment.

Hunter Hollingsworth was pretty much pissed off that his gamer club was shut down due to its choice of game. Hunter had designed a game that a lot of people saw as horrible, but look at the library of games available for PC, PS4, Xboxx 1, and Nintendo’s array of consoles. Most involve … you get three guesses, but you will likely guess fighting, male dominance, and supporting roles only for females. There are games that promote female lead characters and have women doing the fighting, sure, like in Crouching Tigers, Hidden Dragons, yadda yadda yadda, but most games were invented by males, so people might think they contain misogynistic crap. Hunter was seen as this kind of character, and so went on to troll Maya Matlin, the president cofounder or some what of the Feminist Club. Maya was dating Zig, and Hunter was trolling her with comments and messages anonymously so he could try and harm Maya. WEll, here’s how Mommy handled the situation: she put Hunter in a psych ward so he could be taught to cope with maladaptive feelings, etc., after only finding out he brought a gun to school and had a list of names, students suspected a kill list. Hunter reminds me of a real life internet troll, Ivan Soto, who would fit the bill in a lot of ways. Ivan was punished, but not by Mom, but by a buddy of mine who knew this was going on. Ivan impersonated my ex boyfriend, Blake Tucker, saying he was glad he hadn’t “fucked” me, which if you knew Blake, you’d know he keeps the marital bed holy, and would be damned if he did a thing like that. So it was Ivan impersonating Blake, attacking Trenton, attacking others with mental disabilities etc because even he is disabled.

Now, if Ivan doesn’t get therapy like the character in Degrassi ends up receiving, in this case Hunter, Ivan could turn into yet another more advanced psychopathic character altogether.

JDO, let’s call him, was a real vicious abuser in his own right. He and I dated for eight months, but he ate me out of house and home with a best friend, and I regret dating the guy because my best friend from high school, she barely talks to me about it. I just want to put this behind me, but then I notice he’s been abusing other girls. JDO abused a long list of females, including Tina from a previous post. I use only this name with her because I want to protect her. JDO could have killed Tina, and it further proves him too maladaptive for relationships, even his own sister can say the same. The pattern is this: he looks for disabled girls who are troubled, weak, and vulnerable. He lures them in, and then his smooth operator charm clicks in, then he hurts them in some way. In Tina’s case, he fractured her finger with a fake and disgusting piece of jewelry, and he messed up a perfectly good relationship with a decent man who would never treat her like that. Tina needs our help, not the guy known as JDO. Hopefully, his mother does what Mrs. Hollingsworth did, confiscates all technology, takes away his router, etc. But then there’s a racist boyfriend in the family that the mother is dating, who is blocked on FB because of all this.

If we don’t help maladaptive teenagers now, just look what they’ll become when they’re older. Teenagers, as Degrassi shows, are highly malleable as young children, and remain that way until they reach maturity. I’ll bring in some more issues as they come around and talk more Degrassi and how it can be applied to real life.

Preventing ABuse of Females with Disabilities: Seeing the Tragedy Behind the Rituals, How to Prevently Death of Such Innocent Young Women.

Dear Readers,
The following contains a trigger warning because what I’m about to write contains information that could be upsetting in nature.
If you read my previous blog entry, Ashlee and Leah’s storiess have no tragic consequences, but I’m about to show you a story with real tragic consequences, as told to me by a friend in Ohio.
Kelly M. Bond was 32 years old, and died a lonely lady. Her obituary did not tell the truth, only mentioned half her pets, who was doing the funeral, who was acting as pall bearer, etc. It was not surprising, but Kelly’s story began in a farming community in Tennessee, where her mother, Peggy W. Bond, and her father, Tom Bond, raised her and a sister called Emily. Kelly was mistreated at the hands of her family, who said to her that nobody would believe her abuse occurred. However, a friend told me that her family planned her murder and got away with it because of her disability. Kelly was blind and epileptic.
Because of Kelly’s health problems, one day, after years of abuse had scarred Kelly for life, her family made her sign insurance papers making Kelly an object of money for her family. They then proceeded to kill the young lady in her bed, causing the seizure she never woke from. Emily didn’t sond as though she mourned her sister, so says my friend. It was obvious by the tone of Emily’s voice that Kelly’s life was nothing to her.
How do we prevent tragedies like Kelly’s? First, document all abuse the client or friend or family member is going through. If they are not allowed to document the abuse themselves, give them a cell phone for calling 911 and a limited amount of minutes. The person should seek medical treatment if for example, a threat against their life is made. If a parent or guardian refuses to comment on the abuses spawned by family resentment of a child’s disability, there should be red flags flying all around you. If your client, friend, or family member with a disability is on the brink of death, make sure paramedics know what occurred, and a full record of that person’s life should be kept wherever only you the worker and the victim can find it. In any case, disability resentment and abuse due to this condition/class is unacceptable. Preventing tragedies like that of Kelly Marie Bond should be the top priority for lawyers, judges, and social workers alike.

Proving Abuse or Cruelty Against Disabled Females: My Story

Dear Readers,

It is shocking to find that the following vignette, while based on a real person, is truer than most people would like to believe. In the following vignette, a young woman with disabilities is treated and abused with such cruelty, and in the cases of rape and incest, she lies.

 

Ashlee was seventeen when she was first used or raped by a family member. It was years later that she would find herself in trouble and going to the hospital again and again and again, not having any luck getting better. Because of Ashlee’s past, she became addicted to morphine and other narcotics, and her sister Lisa was worse. Drug use in her family along with cigarette smoke and other problems led to Ashlee’s diagnosis with diabetes and high blood pressure. In her Southern home, there is no hope, and because she also got diagnosed with histrionic personality, bipolar, and borderline personality disorder, she receives little treatment. Nobody believes her story of rape, abuse, and torture. This is a common pattern in Ashlee’s life, as it gets worse and worse. She copes by collecting dolls, dolls that won’t talk back or make a fuss. It is harder to prove her story is true in court, and at present, Ashlee has had three or more ex-fiances, all of whom say they won’t date her again.

 

Ashlee’s story is though based on reality, it is a composite sketch of what proving abuse looks like for all young women, not just disabled women. However, it is noted that most disabled young women are raped at a higher rate than 60% by family members. Even sighted women like Elizabeth Fritzl look like rare diamonds compared to the many other disabled people who are regularly treated with cruelty and abuse.

IF it isn’t physical abuse, disabled women are denied cash funds or flow by husbands, brothers, or any male guardian in Saudi Arabia. The same is true of other women, but disabled women receive more of the sensational attention.

Because of vignettes like the one I just composed, real cases like the next vignette are all too impossible to let slip through the cracks.

 

Leah is blind and her parents treated her like scum. If asked why they did this, Leah, 12, says, “Because I’m blind.” She’s also autistic, and her parents threw her in the basement. They told her nobody would believe her story of cruelty and abuse at the hands of her family. Upon taking her family to court, however, Leah found that her rights were considered, and she told the judge she didn’t want to live with her family again because her parents threw her in a basement, forced her to wear stinky diapers, and called her names. She was changed frequently in front of friends, guests, etc. This is a form of discipline called diaper discipline, and it hurts, not helps the child grow and learn from mistakes. It’s a form of abuse.

 

Leah’s story is far more important in this sense that the abuse is more obvious. But do we see a pattern? Leah’s abuse story here is a composite once again of several real life stories, and adding disability to the mix makes it hard for the parents to cope. Leah is who we should be helping more, right?

IF Leah had not been helped by Children Protective Services, she would have ended up like Ashlee, obviously. It’s obvious that nobody knows the difference between Ashlee’s and Leah’s stories. Ashlee is a composite of what happens when the story is made up, but Leah is the real case of abuse.

So how do you tell that the abuse is real? Ask the potential victim. One other way victims are abused is by way of spiritual abuse as well. You can force your child to go to a place of worship as a form of abuse, but remember, Congress shall make no law establishing the free exercise thereof means that Christians should not impose their beliefs on others. No religion is sanctioned by the States, therefore forcing a child to attend a church with dangerous criminals in it should be noted as a form of abuse. Muslims who don’t accept their daughter or son’s conversion to Christianity are more prone to abuse as well. Remember the story of Rifka Barry? Her family didn’t accept her conversion and planned to ship her off to Sri Lanka, where she would have been in more danger. She eventually got a foster family in Ohio, but aged out of the system without a job, but clearly she’s gone to college. She has done interviews with CBN and Fox News, two conservative channels of information, among others she interviewed with Pat Robertson, the 700 Club’s famous host.

Spiritual abuse is not noted in court, but should. Psychological abuse is another issue as well. My family psychologically abused me as a teenager because they wanted to stunt me as much as possible so they could get more money for having guardianship. This is the most wrong thing a person can do to someone. Psychological abuse and isolation are common tactics that courts overlook, but look closer at what could happen if this goes unheeded and untreated. I left Florida because not only was I financially abused, I was morally and spiritually maltreated, and worst of all, I was told with whom to live, spend my life, and to whom I should communicate. This is wrong beyond wrong, and there are more things to ponder on that subject. I left Florida because my services were robbed, hijacked by my parents because image seemed to trump abilities on my end. They didn’t want me to cross streets until my head wobbling stopped, something that will not 100% happen at all. I’m downright horrified that my parents blamed me when the mobility instructor, a dual certified TVI as well, had to cut lots of class due to a surgery and colon screening. Those aren’t fun.

I’m sorry to say but Lighthouse of the Big Bend was manipulated by guardians who should never have had the power. I picked Denver because it was the biggest and most ideal of two places I researched. I didn’t want Ruston, Louisiana because of the Southern way of life, Louisiana being also among 25 fattest states in the country. Arkansas is the fattest by far, with about 40% of its residents fatter than normal. Diabetes and heart disease are too common in Louisiana and Arkansas and the other Southern former Confederacy region states. I also would not allow myself to be told what center to go to, informed choice being the big kicker. Colorado had a better staff back six years ago, seven if you count this coming year. However, I don’t believe people in CCB and NFB curriculum are getting the kind of training in safety things. Ruston is probably no better than CCB, but it’s in a small town, and you have to go to Monroe to do bus travel.

When I got to Colorado, I still had to take counseling, and now I don’t do counseling with the guy I was doing counseling with before, I’m strictly with a provider. Medicaid pays for my treatment, which could come under attack by Congress. Ugh.

Anyway, CCB did a few things that triggered stuff from past abuse, among other things I had to clean up for being late, which to me was too much punishment for a day. I wasn’t going to put up with it any longer. CCB also condemned my abilities and strengths and said I was unemployable, same with Florida. DVR in Colorado would not let me go back to school for support in being a social worker. It’s the only job I can see myself in, but with a doc saying I was unstable, I filed a DORA complaint against his statements I was pretending to be Arab, which is absolutely offensive to olive skinned and American women alike who practice the religion of Islam. I left the religion in part because of Dr. Benson’s harsh judgments, and I can’t get a job easily because of this either. Now I have to be a homemaker, stay at home and unemployed for life because of a lifetime of some physical and mental abuse. I know how this impacts others, and it is horrible how it can impact your clients or friends with disabilities.

The best thing I would recommend would be to turn in the abusers to court, ask your client or friend to document the abuse and when it happened. Recording phone calls is a very important thing. I’m recording phone calls because my father could call and say things that are truly not called for.

Thank you for reading, and I look forward to your comments.

Beth

Disabled Lead Characters in the Media: Spotlight on Pelswick and OtherMedia Portraits of the 90swith Any Kind of Disability

Ever wonder what kind of programming might interest your child, teen, or yourself these days? Pretty insipid stuff currently inhabits our television screens, but I’d like to bring back Pelswick, a gem from the 1990s, an awesome old favorite about a boy in a wheelchair. This is supposed to be a cartoon, but many disabled people don’t get the show named  for them, nor do they have lead parts, even in Arthur, the famous PBS show. So Pelswick comes as a bit of a surprise to me.

Pelswick is a teenage boy in a wheelchair living with a single father, a big plus  for the time as mostly mothers had custody of divorce children. He also has a grandmother and sister, but the family is in any case a family full of love and tolerance, and the father wants a girlfriend, of course. But there are dangers as Season 2 episode 9shows us.

In this episode, spoiler alert slightly, Pelswick’s dad finds a lady called Spagna, who seems like a super nice and fun loving woman at first, but there is a big surprise in the episode while Pelswick is doing some detective work of his own to find out if Spagna is worth the family’s time. Watch the episode in a few different ways, and you’ll be asking yourself, what should I do as a single parent with a disabled child and siblings? I can name a real life example that went well for the children in question, and I can probably name other examples that didn’t go so well.

But for Pelswick, spoiler alert number 2, Spagna is overpatronizing. How many of us with disabilities remember how “special” we were meant to be or were looked at as in school or work or with a parent nearby? Pelswick’s dad may not have picked up on the signals that Spagna wasn’t quite right for him because of how she regarded Pelswick, as incapable of practically taking a breath! One might think this episode offensive, but I see it as a teaching tool. She seems so politically correct that Spagna woos the family. They clearly fail to see what she’s really standing for. I was at first deceived by Spagna’s ability to open up, but notice her patronizing way she talks openly about his special qualities. This may be the worst choice of examples, but applying this example to a real life situation is paramount to importance. Single parents should be aware of their girlfriend’s or boyfriend’s signals and any patronizing behavior can easily be picked up by a disabled child. “You’re so special” may be interpreted as “Yuck, you’re incapable.” You never know. Here’s the link for your reference.