Dedicated to all my transgender Friends: You Guys Rock!

Dear readers,

This is so cool. I got to watch a documentary recommended by my transgender buddy Davina, and she sent me the link to this documentary but it was easy to find on Netflix. I watched it thinking, this? A family in Colorado? Well, I’ve got news for all of you. I loved what I saw, both the dark comments and the highs and lows of the family were amazingly in full view. Only problem? No audio description, so yeah, I was assuming things. The Mathis family of Aurora, Colorado, not far from Denver, have triplets and an older daughter and a younger daughter. Their transgender daughter Coy is seven or eight by now, I forget how old this documentary is. I want to say I think Coy is like any other female child, who needs genitalia to dictate who you are? Though I’ve always been a woman, was assigned female at birth and all, I have totally embraced my transgender friends in the chorus and stuff. I want to make another thing clear: if Coy grows up and gets her confirmation surgery and good affirmative care, I want to see that girl in the Denver Women’s chorus or Soar Youth and Adult choir. Either choir will do, and it’s amazingly awesome. The choir at Soar is rather accepting of all types of people, and we have a gender fluid person in our tenor section, which is awesomeness. Coy’s story does say a lot, and I learned a bunch of things from what I saw in the story, but here’s the big thing I learned: in Colorado, you can use whatever restroom facilities you want. Even students can do this as well. My friend Christine, who has indeed received affirmative care and such, can do whatever she wants, even if the Trump administration wants to ban her from joining the marines. Who cares? If she wants to, she should pick it up. She could join the navy, the army, or whatever. However, we need a governing body to back this up.

I feel like I can be whoever I want in a world that doesn’t want me to exist, and sometimes for trans people, that’s the case. I have lots of friends who would agree, differences should be celebrated. While I think Coy is amazingly cool and all, she should probably read the Mighty Rebecca comic book. The Mighty Rebecca marvel comic is about a transgender superhero, someone who fights evildoers like the other Marvelites but does them for the sake of LGBTQI+ rights and such.

Okay, before I get crazier by the moment, let me just say a big thank you to the families of transgender folks, the ones who will accept their kids as they are. I can totally agree with the families who say that their child can be who they want to be. Here’s the thing I don’t like. The GOP and their anti transgender agenda, the Bathroom bill in NC, all the crap I got from friends in the South, like Georgia and such. I hope we elect better people who can do better things and represent the people who want to see good things for transgender people. I will for the future reference of this blog write some more about the Marvel Hero project. I liked Unstoppable Adonis. He is blind and plays football, and has dreams of going into the NFL. Good luck, I say, and I’ll write a story about him and other Marvel heroes in another post, but today, there’s more to come.


  1. I’m going to compile a list of things to do for disabled people in churches, with links to other blogs and books and other resources.
  2. I’m going to write about the Marvel Hero kids, and other people who are adults making a difference in the world.
  3. I’ll show you guys some more stuff and documentaries. If I find something cool, I’ll write about something cool. That’s just who I am, I write about something cool.


Compassion IS Low in the United States

Dear readers,

Recently, the showing of a nativity scene with the holy family in cages went viral. I don’t think it’s a clear abuse of the Christmas family, but let me tell you one Bible story it does depict and let you decide what we should do if the Holy Family came to us.

Remember the old story of King Herod? He was a ruthless and yet a very great king, but then again, all the good kings end up dead in ancient history. Herod had palaces, great big buildings built for his family’s greatness. He was so ruthless that he wanted to be the only great king of the world, so when Jesus the Child Christ was born, Herod decreed the killings of Judaic boys born between the last two years, but there was something Herod did not know. An angel had come to Joseph and Mary and the child, according to the story, and said, “Take this kid to Egypt.” That’s a paraphrase, mind you. But the angel warned that Jesus was in danger of being massacred by Herod’s soldiers. Well, they left as soon as they could, and Jesus grew up as usual.

Now, I think the whole thing about Herod was needed because in the Nativity scene in California, it shows a possible outcome of Jesus and his family at the border of a United States proper. IF we were to exist, what would you do if you saw the scraggly peasants and the little one not knowing that he was the Christ, son of God, or whatever else you might believe? First of al, there was a homily done by a priest I knew back in the day, was it a deacon? I don’t know. In the homily, he told a story of being recognized. He used Bing Crosby, so people would understand what was going on. Jesus might walk across the border as an old peasant, but would he be required to show ICE his ID? What if he had none? That’s the question. I’m sorry, but here’s my two cents.

I would let Jesus and the parents cross the border if they were fleeing Herod, which in the nativity scene, I think that’s what we should focus on, not the fact that the Holy Family are in cages. Imagine what would happen if Jesus and his parents, Mary holding the bundle in her arms, were standig at the border of the United States, and what if Mary or Joseph asked you to let them pass, and told you an angel had said they had to leave Israel because of … suppose it was Netanyahu and his cohorts not believing Jesus was Jesus? Or was it a Herodlike fiure? Imagine this for a moment.

King Herod was a ruthless demigod, but what would happen if we processed and hemmed and hawed around the fact that this was the Holy Family? We’d be screwed, all right. We’d be screwed to the fullest extent, and Trump could very well be compared to Pontias Pilate, the guy who ended up crucifying Christ in the end, spoiler alert.

Now, here is something that I would never consider about the story of Jesus. He was probably born the way all babies are born, but the special qualities he possessed were enough to label him a charismatic. This was the first time a Charismatic Jew had upended the teachings of Pharisees and the Sanhedron hated that. Old Law Judaic ways would never be the same, and there are Messianic Jews who believe Jesus is the Savior of the world. So how would we identify him? Well, look in the book of Revelation, but more importantly, look at the stories you wil likely hear this Christmas.

Have a good Christmas, and happy holidays.


The Denverqueen 2019 Gift Guide for Everybody this Year

Dear readers,

What is on your family’s gift list this year? If you think these gifts are nothing but trouble, they’re not. I am recommending these based on experiences from Christmas pasts. At Christmas and for a family or loved one’s birthday, please keep these in mind. I would post links on Amazon but I would have to flip from Window to window and paste and copy those items like crazy. So these are simply gift ideas, and with that, sit back and relax.


  1. For the nerd in your life, cool tech is always an option. However, tech can be expensive and unwieldy, so save up your money before you plan to invest. Why not try an all in one solution? I have a power strip from Beztek that works wonders and has USB charge ports for all my USB chargeable crap. I plan to buy one of those for Trenton. Now, if that’s too much, there are smart plugs and outlets, like outlet surge protectors. There are all kinds of ways you can help the nerd in your life conserve energy and charge their stuff. The Beztek strip I have includes wireless charging, a must have if you run out of spaces to plug things into. The nerd in your life will thank you.
  2. Also, for the nerd in your life, if they like Star Trek and Star Wars, watch for DVD releases at your local retailer of Star Wars, the original series, or the inferior prequels if you insist on galvanizing the entire universe. There is a new show on Disney Plus called the mandalorian which is about a guy who’s a bounty hunter, who goes out and gets people and such. It takes place five years after the fall of the evil Empire. When the deathstar is destroyed, all hell breaks loose. And the Mandalorian’s people have to protect and do things for clients. Disney plus is available for tablets, phones, and smart television sets so get ready to be amazed. The service is $6.99 per month, or $69 a year, so it’s cheap for what you’re getting, and includes audio description for you blind people out there.
  3. For that book reader in your life, there’s a new book out by the author of the handmaid’s Tale. It’s called the Testaments, and it takes place fifteen years after the events in the Handmaid’s Tale. Guess what? Ladies, be prepared to get ‘er done. That’s what the Testaments tells us. And it’s about how a dystopian regime like Gilead ultimately falls. I won’t tell you exactly how it fell, but read the book and get your copy on Kindle or at your local book retailer. And if you have missed the Handmaid’s Tale, get into the Hulu show, using Hulu Basic ($5 per month about), and it is also audio described for blind audiences. Also on Hulu basic, you can get an assortment of movies and a few horror shows. But I’m focusing on the dystopian book nerds in your life.
  4. For that makeup artist in your life, here’s a few tips. For starters, make sure the makeup and beauty products you buy are appropriate and present a chic but natural look for your makeup sensation in your life. Boy or girl, you should still allow them to wear makeup. However, be careful of cheap buys from high end department stores, and watch the Consumer Product Safety commission and your local news outlets for recalls if any concerning makeup products. Many companies also sometimes test their products on monkeys and other exotic animals, something I don’t exactly do well to support. My man says I look good without makeup, but beware what makeup does to your face depending on the skin solutions you deploy. It makes teenage girls look like they’ve gone out and done some pretty grown up things, but a natural look that enhances a girl’s or guy’s appearance is fine, so long as it’s not heavy. Mascara is difficult to put on, especially for me because it gets everywhere if you don’t do it right, or you start crying and your eyes are a mess.
  5. For the physically active guru in your life, smart watches and fit bits are a great solution. Have you ever wondered how much your caloric stuff is burnt every day? Have you wanted to track your cycles, for you female people out there, or wanted to try and improve your health? Well, fit bit and smart watch solutions are everywhere. I would suggest the Apple Watch series models 3 through 5, and make sure it supports Apple Watch OS 6 or higher. Why? It’s more than just a fitness thing. It will also act as a wrist communicator, a weather tracker, a calendar, all that and it has Voiceover on it. For a blind person, you can read a map direction route on it, but I haven’t delved into that yet. You can get the watch series 4 or 5 and it’ll do electrocardiograms, ECG readings on you that are FDA approved. Series 5 has fall detection, so you people who are fall risks or are extremely active can use this to alert the appropriate peoples that you fell, and get help right away. I have the watch series 5, and love it.
  6. Have you wanted to ask your AI assistant, “What am I holding?” Echo Show 8 and 10 inches supports this feature. It is sold by Amazon, so you won’t miss that much. All you have to do is look for deals on the Echo Show.
  7. For that pack rat in your life, I always love a good bag or purse. My bag and purse collection is growing, but my wallet collection needs a bit of love. My wallet phone case is a good example of a phone case that doesn’t break your wallet period. Although a lot of my friends like Otter Box, I hate to say it, but there are a lot of phone cases from Caseology and other companies like it that are a ton cheaper. I want to get Trenton an iPhone case, but since there are so many choices and too many options, I will start with Caseology and feel my way around for something that costs less than $20. Those Otter Box cases are great, but cost $40, and I still have the one that carried my SE. Sadly, it’s the one that caused a bit of a halo effect on my iPhone SE when I went to give that thing away. Poor thing. So if anything, my phone case budget is set at $20 and I want lots of stuff for that price. For Trenton, though, he at least can have a caseology case for that much or less and all that, but I’m tempted to get him a wallet case like mine, in purple and such.
  8. Are you a scrapbooker? Well, not too many people are, but digital photo albums and paper ones too make a great gift just for you. If you’re a memory collector, feel free to digitize your photos and keep them in a keepsake book or scrapbook if you want. Scraps of memory or things you did in the past are great things to share with family and loved ones for generations to come.
  9. For that fashionista in your life, there are a variety of ideas you could do with style and clothing, but beware Amazon ships the clothing from China. Ewww, it’s bad quality, believe me I tried one thing for my friends’ wedding and it ripped open right at the end. Ugh. Anyway, if you don’t have any money for a Macy’s dress or a Victoria’s Secret outfit or lingerie, there are a million ways to buy clothing that don’t involve a designer tag. As Gretchen Wilson said in her song, she don’t need a designer tag to make a man want her more. So Walmart or even Target will work, but beware if buying gifts for foster children, stay away from the Arc or Goodwill. Kids need to look smart and professional at school, so as to ward off bullies. This way, they don’t feel like they are secondhand. Adults can choose to look professional on a budget without looking secondhand too. However, kids are extra picky about everything, especially clothing when they get older. Bedsheets and towels are great wedding gifts, but I wouldn’t consider them Christmas gift material ever depending on the situation at hand.

Those are ten ways you can impress your fam this year for the holidays. If you want to research these items, most can be found on Amazon under the brand names like Beztek and Echo Show. You can also ask Alexa to search for said items I just mentioned, but if you want to donate to charity, use the smile page of choice on Amazon’s smile website, and don’t forget to choose a charity of choice.

Thank you,


Myths and Facts about Christmas

Dear readers,

As the holidays draw near, I’d like to ponder a few questions of what the holidays are really all about. First and foremost, I hear a lot of people putting Jesus first, which for Christian circles that is a good thing, as his message is about tolerance, love, and inclusion, but what expense is spared to exclude or not tolerate difference? A lot, I would assume. And it begins with the origins of our current commercialist Christmas season. Let’s delve into the Yuletide facts and myths pronto and I’ll show you what I know about this stuff.


  1. Myth: Jesus was born Dec 25, in about the year 4 C.E. Oops, what’s wrong with this? Fact: Jesus’ birth might have occurred around spring or fall, but whatever season he was born at, it had to be date harvesting season for the Middle Eastern countries, according to the Islamic, Judaic, and some Christian sources. I like the Muslim way to describe Jesus’s birth, and it demonstrates what Mary had to do to get through labor and pregnancy, even while being a virgin. Or not. Could she be a virgin? I’ve questioned this a lot, and scholars might suggest in one TV show I watched that she could have been raped by a Roman soldier, which is quite plausible, given the Roman law said that all girls in the Roman Empire had to get knocked up and have babies with Roman men. Or any men, for that matter, and that included Jewish or Judaic ones.
  2. Myth: Mary was a virgin, and Jesus was born without contact from a man. Qur’an sources say that Mary and Joseph did not actually marry, but then who fathered the child? Mary’s birthing of Jesus as a virgin has to be mythical because of one simple thing: where’s God in the picture? Perhaps this is a simple cover up because if Mary was raped by a soldier, which is altogether quite plausible because of what I mentioned about Roman law above, the virgin’s womb and birth of a child by virgin could be completely a myth so that Mary doesn’t feel so bad or get stoned to death, as in her community, only a virgin could be married off and virginity in the bad old days was a man’s business. Girls’ virginity was often sold to the highest bidder, and if there was a Joseph in the picture, he would have divorced Mary because she was pregnant out of wedlock, and how could Jesus be any God’s son? According to Islamic sources, God has no son, so where do Christians get this idea? Fact: Still to be seen whether Mary was indeed raped by a soldier of a Roman legion, but that is possible.
  3. Myth: There’s no such thing as Santa Claus. Now this can be seen whichever you look at it, whether child or adult. I personally believe there’s a Santa in every one of us, each of us both male and female. Santa, as the Spanish like to say, actually means a female or feminine form of the word “saint”. This might be written as “Santa Teresa.” Oops, but that’s a language issue right there. Santa Claus might have been the patron saint of children, St. Nicholas from somewhere in either Turkey or Germany. Austria and other European countries commonly celebrate the feast day of this saint, but where do saints get their miracles? It all goes back to the whole God thing. If God can work miracles, then where do saints come from? Fact: the Santa Claus thing probably did originate from this St. Nicholas guy, and there are many parts of this legend told around the world. In the Netherlands, for example, Santa rides aboard a white horse, and the horse grazes on hay and carrots which the Dutch children are taught to put inside a wooden shoe. No, I’m not kidding. Now, on to the next point.
  4. Myth: Christmas is a Christian holiday. Fact: It’s not. Christmas usually falls around the Winter solstice which Pagan folks would celebrate in the sense that they hail the birth of the sun. Not God’s son, but the star that warms the earth and might possibly burn it day after day.
  5. Myth: Jesus’s birth is the greatest story ever told. Fact: I don’t know, but I do know this. If Mary’s virginity is called into question due to cultural and familial circumstances, then where are the three kings? There were many kingdoms from far away. I think the greatest story ever told is the creation of the universe, and scientifically speaking, the Big Bang hypothesis might as well beat the book of Genesis any day. You can’t make a world in seven 24 hour rotations unless you’re like me and writing a book. I’m extremely skeptical about this idea that the world was created in 7 24-hour rotations of a single planet. And there are billions of stars, and so much in the way of galaxies you can’t shake a stick at it all. The stars and galaxies and perhaps planets are numerous, so the seven day creation story is indeed a mythical thing that people used to shut women up. See next item.
  6. Myth: Women are the weaker sex. Fact: Actually, no. We’re not. And there’s a second point to this myth. The story goes that Eve had lots of labor pains and the God of the Bible says that “out of sorrow, you shall bring forth children.” What that means is what it says, pain in the belly while a woman is giving birth. And after this myth was written and codified in a book, some sexism arose, even more so after Christianity and the Crusades. But let’s face it. the Hebrews had women giving birth under the banner of “sorrow” and a male God, Jehovah. This is where we land here. The Hebrews believed they were the chosen people, still do today. Judaeo-Christian values specify that women are the so called weaker sex, and the Bible, Torrah, and Qur’an all sanction unequal rights for women and men. However, according to a Jewish cantor friend I ran into several times, the Torah might have mentioned that men lying together could get stoned, but not women. The reform Jewish culture has progressively thrown out the core of the Conservative doctrinal dogma of woman being weak, men and women not having homosexual relations, and so much more. Transgender people are well accepted in some reform Judaeo-Christian circles, but since the time of Christmas, Christians have tried to convince people that women are the weaker sex. It’s happened ever since organized religious beliefs came to being, even before Judaic things happened, and before the Torah was probably codified on scrolls. Don’t get me started. Women still got different treatment even in modern Christian churches, and my experience speaks to that in many ways. I’ll write more on that later, but back to Christmas.
  7. Jesus was risen from the dead, and it occurred on Good Friday. Again, a myth. Jesus was crucified by the Roman Empire governor Pontias Pilate, but there’s something even weirder about this part of the story. Jesus being born in the spring or fall is correct, but he probably died thirty years later, and it might not have been in April or May. The resurrection thing is still in hot dispute by scholars, archaeologists, and the like. The shroud of Turin has no visible carbon dating evidence of Jesus’s DNA which could have included a flake or two of skin, and nobody can find the man’s body anywhere. So does this mean he is truly the son of a deity? Again, Islamic sources conclude that Jesus, or in Arabic is known as Isa, is not the son of the fiery deity known as Allah or simply the supreme God of all the Abrahamic sects.
  8. The Nativity Scene Myths: Okay, get ready to throw away your Nativity scenes. Why? Because the architecture of such is wholly inaccurate in a lot of ways. For one, when Mary went to give birth to her son, and when in the story, her husband Joseph took her to Bethlehem on this historic night, the little boy was born in a stable. Okay, that’s accurate, but the stable should look something like what I’m about to describe: Bethlehem houses and inns were situated on top of a barn cellar, not necessarily your average one level stable area. The barn cellar would contain all manner of sheep and goats and donkeys and horses and the like. Jesus’s mother gave birth in something like a basement, and the roof would not be visible from that level. The above ground level would have to be the inn or housing dwelling of a Bethlehemian shepherd or house keeping man and his wife and children. Who knew how many would be kept there. An angel and three wise men are always included in the Nativity scenes, but let’s see if you can guess how and in what room the wisemen would have to go to see the prized baby? You guessed it, down, and they’d have to board their horses and such or camels if applicable in the barn cellar, not just a barn on the level with the house. Yes, the whole idea of the stable is great, but the look of such a nativity scene is almost inaccurate because of archaeological evidence and scholarly work that appeared somewhere in history recently.

Christmas is quite a holiday as you can guess. But what should we really be celebrating? While I believe in the aspects of God being female, there are people who would kill me for saying so. Male godheads are known to the male creators of such gods to be tyrannical beings that demand that anything less than he conform to a behavior undesirous of the persons being demanded of. let’s try breaking down what we should be doing during the winter holidays. Giving gifts is great, but what if your child subjects are Jewish, Wicca, or any other faith or rather what if they’re atheist? Here’s what I think we could try doing in place of the so called Winter holidays.

  1. While I am skeptical of religion, I do think being bonded with Jews, Christians, and Muslims is highly important to historical contexts. I don’t hate any of these people, let’s say this right now. However, the Christian and Abrahamic God no longer appeals to me personally because of patriarchal nonsense and the rules for governing a woman’s body and sexual behavior, which could damage a woman if she’s raped by a man, known or unknown. Spend a day or week with a person who celebrates Hanukkah, the Jewish Festival of Lights. You can ask any questions you like, including things about the candles and menorah and the dreidel game or any other weird and wonderful pastime you can think of asking about. Talk to your friend about the legends behind the origin of Hanukkah, and parents, always read stories like this to your children. Talk about the Jews’ steadfast faith and zero tolerance policy for the king and his Greek god worshipping being forced on them etc. Break it down to a level that is understandable to your child’s age, and add more when appropriate.
  2. Spend a day with a Muslim family. Parents, if you’re curious about Muslims, do your homework. Allow your kids to play with Muslim children, but be as skeptical as anything still lurking in the closet. Don’t be afraid of the religions your child will come across, and feel free to read stories and books as before, but about Islam and the Muslim faith. Like the Judaic peoples, Muslims are most of the time steadfast in their beliefs, and stronger ones are so good at what they do that they sometimes know a few hints that you might not know about the Qur’an and the Haaddith, and feel free to educate your child about the why’s and ways of Islam, and the five pillars and such. Be careful with girls, and teach them that to wear hijab and other things is a choice they can and cannot make, and it’s up to them.
  3. Spend a day feeding the homeless folks. There are many people who don’t have homes, but don’t have a church or religious org looking out for their best interests. Feed those people a delicious Solstice meal, a Christmas dinner, or prepare them a Hanukkah present or something of this nature. When one feeds the homeless and heals and visits the sick, they’re still doing good deeds whether they believe or not in a deity for credit.

The props of Christmas are also a wonderful thing to think about. If you have kids who are curious about things, there are a few stories to consider. Talk about the poinsettia plant, and the legend behind it. Talk about the origin of Christmas trees and lights, and talk about different gift giving traditions around the world. Let the kids decide what they want under their Christmas stuff and in their stockings. That, by the way, comes from Sweden. Also, if you want flying reindeer, that’s a different part of the story. Reindeer are actually dangerous farmed animals in Scandinavian culture used for everything from hides to meat to milk and transport. Flying reindeer would have to have wings, honestly.

I’ll write a few things about Christmas safety here now. Keep your pets away from this blog, … kidding. If they could read, they’d discover that poinsettia plants and certain Christmas things are dangerous to their health. Mistletoe is actually a parasitic plant, but so is holly and ivy. Yes, we all know the song about the holly and the ivy. But keep in mind where these plants come from and how they grow. I love a good sprig of holly every once in a while, but you can’t eat the berries. Don’t let your cat or dog nibble the berries, ever. Holly and mistletoe are cute and all as decorations, but here’s another fun fact. Kissing someone under mistletoe actually came from Celtic tradition. For this reason, you should probably consider putting the fake mistletoe up for solstice festivities. Okay, I’m getting really drowsy, so I better pop off to a long slumber.