Whoever Reads This Post Should Be Comfortable with Disabled People In the Lead, Period, Or Else Don’t Bother Subscribing to this Blog

Hello, readers.

I recently was told that ACLU could not help with my case. Honestly, I was nervous while speaking to the lawyer. I won’t reveal exactly what, or who, she was, but this person suggests a couple of impossible things: get a part time job and demonstrate complete independence. But how? and What?

Let’s start with the bane of every disabled person’s existence. Employer attitude is not something easily changed. This person suggests I work with DVR, however they do not wish to work with me. They’ve canceled my case, but here’s the hard part: I was all right with it because they seriously confused me out the bat. So I said, okay, fine, I’m not working with you all anymore. They had me in sheltered places, working in enterprise facilities that did not befit the intellect I was looking for. Sadly, I cannot go to college with DVR. It’s strange, but a part time job would not fit here also because DVR’s idea of a job would either be silverware rolling, which lost a friend of mine money, or call center work, which would then mess up my whole life. DVR should think twice before putting blind people in the Arc call center. My buddy Art had issues with the DVR arrangement, and Arc did not appreciate this man’s many years of inside sales representative work on top of college in political science. This call center dehumanizes anyone who works there, and I’ve got friends who can back me up.

Thus why I do not work with DVR as suggested and why I cannot receive a part time job.

Another reason I can’t do the part time job is that my major in college, which I want to go back and attend, requires extra work outside the classroom. All music majors must, at all colleges I’ve looked at, study a principle instrument with a gifted professor, and I’ve had great teachers. The instrument teacher would likely ask that I practice two hours per day, but that’s not all. Practicals such as conducting are required for learning high school chorus skills. I would likely want to do elementary education in music, but I do believe middle and high school would do just fine if there wasn’t a job in elementary. If I do find a full time career as a teacher in an elementary school, and music being what I’d teach the children, then there are a few things I’d need: health benefits for both myself and my boyfriend and future children, a lot of money so we can get a better place, and people to at least hang out with or leave us alone. Period.

A part time job would not give us top rated doctors, and would disturb the practice time that I would desperately need as a musician on the principle instrument of the piano. We would love to do a business on the side, run a small sound production company, but Kahili and I have to be serious. We are not going to put up with travel to work. Kahili’s disabilities do require extra attention, something employers won’t take into account, so I have to be the bredwinner of the family. I will have to take maternity leave, and if Hilary has her way, we will always have that paid parental leave. I hope to become a Master teacher in the elementary music education. It would bring me oodles of joy to teach small children music, something nobody cared to do at all.

I’m sure there are prodigies in the sand hiding for me to find, right?

Now, all that job stuff I mentioned is seriously important, but the problem we also have here is a parent’s willingness to see what they’ve done. A guardian would likely put me in the hands of a predator upon his/her death. My father would likely not spend every penny in my name, but guess what? That is not gonna happen. Not with my parents, all because I’ve been the daughter for years. But my father, god forbid he ever read this, does not understand. He’s not gonna be around forever. Kahili will, at least for a long ass time.

My father has taken away the civil rights of a blind woman, all because of a selfish and evil plan he has concocted, all over a guy. It’s way overboard, and I’m being called border line personality all over this. Independence cannot be fully demonstrated if I’m not able to move, not able to walk, not able to feed myself. That would be full license for a guardian to go in and smash my assets. I’ve even told my dad that nursing homes in Florida have serious issues with abusing their clients. Half or more have guardians who are preying upon them, and I refuse to be among those people committed to some institution, whatever the weather, and I’m not going to be in this situation at all. Being committed to an institution is downright horrific, and if my father doesn’t think clearly about the guardianship, he could end up dead, and his daughter, the prissy lady in the back, could end up preyed upon, and sorry, but then my future husband could have no say in whether he has an opportunity to make love to me, to raise his children, etc. We cannot be stuck. WE need to move the hell on, and right now we have no recourse. None.

I call upon all Florida legislators to end all forms of guardian centered guardianship. I call upon all states and politicians to care, whether you like it or not, about us. We want jobs, we want lives, we want it all because you wake up every day thinking you can be as happy as birds, but people like me could end up confused in a nursing home after eighty years of hell!

Please consider what I wrote, and I will be free to talk with anyone. Readers, I do apologize if some of this entry might have offended you all, but this is rather important.

Beth

What People Have No Clue About: How We Enjoy Life

Dear Readers,
I’m  considering some questions that some people may be able to not to answer for e. Is there any way that regular games can be adapted for use by blind people? Where do you find Uno cards? I’ve been searching for the stuff on the web, but no luck. Beyond Sight in Littleton does not have a great selection, and there has gotta be a better selection. I’d like to be able to host game nights and stuff at my will, just as others do. It would make this life bettering experience a … well, it would make things less stressful. Cassino stuff was on my mind when I saw J and J Trading’s Cassino set, but is the Roulette and other parts of it acessibly made with us in mind? I was curious about that. But then again, who knows!

A Message for People Who Want to Get Out of Getting In Trouble …

Hello, all.

I’d like to be clear on some things. I’d like to be perfectly clear, so clear it’s like glass. There is a young lad in this United States of America who says, “I saw some search results about me in a blog. I want them removed.” Well, I’m sorry, sir, but I’ve got a few things to say on this one:

  1. You can’t get out of trouble for the thing that got you mentioned in my blog. First of all, you vandalized apartment 1107 when I lived there. You lied to me when I told you that you could NOT be FaceTiming with anyone and could not be doing anything but the truth that you were doing something etc., and guess what? You lied. I don’t tolerate liars, bullies, and people who vandalize my apartment.
  2. 2. Sir, you want a job? Then you should have thought of this before you vandalized my apartment. Nobody vandalizes Beth’s apartment without getting a picture of it in the records. Sadly, my care company had to have a picture of this destruction, and you poured FOUR CANS of root beer and soda all over my floor and parts of the kitchen furnishings, which was totally inconsiderate of my personal property. You should think long and hard about what you want in life, what you really want to do with your life. If moping around and vandalizing those who are better off than you is what you want to do, then why are you asking me to get you off the hook? I don’t get vandals off the hook. Period.
  3. For those of you who don’t know, let me recap the incident.
  4. It was some years ago, I was dating a best friend of mine. This guy, we’ll call him Mo, was living in my building here in Denver. Mo came over supposedly for a drink, and I invited him in. But this guy had hatched an evil plan with, above all things, a gentleman who was elder and should not have been manipulated by this guy. Mo planned to spill soda on my floor. First of all, after the spilling of soda on my floor, the floor stuck to my feet, or they stuck to the floor. It was precious fluid and sugar and fuel for my body that was used as vandalism for my apartment. The next thing I knew, my caregiver at the time, let’s call her Jane, came in to the apartment and saw the destruction and was furious. She took pictures for the record. Busted, right? Well, I would have turned in a form that reported Mo destroying my property but nobody was able to fill it out. Nobody could write the details and that form had to be filled out. I wanted Mo out, and to top it off, I told him he was no longer allowed in the apartment. Kahili has word of this, and because he doesn’t like the way Mo handled the situation, not only vandalizing my apartment, but FaceTiming with a girl who disliked me behind my back, he is not happy. Kahili is not happy at all, and he will probably growl at Mo for what Mo did to his own self.
  5. So, I have a message for Mo, and it’s clear and simple: do not ask me to get you off the hook. Want your search results removed? Here are two things you should have done: do not spill soda on my floor. Do not FaceTime with people who do not like me. And don’t FaceTime with others behind my back. Do not offend and dehumanize me with said girl, and do not even think about coming here. Don’t think about it. Don’t.
  6. THis also goes for the guy who attacked me more than three times, using Pro Donald Trump language, which I’ve since banned. If you all can’t get the facts straight, if you can’t take full responsibility for vandalism and lying and acting as a mean and manipulative person, if you can’t take any responsibility for anything, then … Mo, I’m sorry, but you will have to lose a job, a mate, a family, a car, … not taht you would drive a car, but you will lose a lot of things. You’re an adult, okay? Face it, you vandalized my apartment without my knowledge, and I let you in on the presumption that you may drink, not spill. For the rest of you, I’d like to thank you all for standing beside me through the hard days I’ve had so far.
  7. Also, I’m getting a Samsung Galaxy S6, and Kahili has offered to buy it for me. I’m also wondering about any girls who want to join a Whatsapp or Roger group. Let me know.
  8. Your lovely admin,

Beth, Calypso, whatever you want to call me now.

Donald Trump Wants to Trump your Privacy: What to Expect

If you have mental health issues, remember this phrase? “All that you say here will remain confidential.” With Medicaid clients, it’s no differnt. As a mental health system member myself, I am made completely aware that all the stuff I tell social and casework persons remains confidential, except attempts to commit suicide or if I say I’ve committed abuse against vulnerable persons like disabled ones and the elderly. What Trump wants to do is vastly dangerous for all casework and mental health counseling patients and their workers.

Let me show you how Trump would dump all our rights in the dust for the sake of the healthy person. What Trump will do is the following in a scenario:Let’s suppose that my counselor, J., and I talk about stuff. If Trump had it his way, J. would be overwhelmed with federal requirements, including whether or not I plan to buy a gun. I would explain to J. that I would like to at least protect myself from the possibility of burglary or rape,and some guys don’t give a damn even if they’re just tasered. So the next thing I’d do, let’s say, is shoot him with a fwe rounds, that will teach a guy to mind the Denver Queen, etc. J. might tell me she’s gonna turn me into Donald’s so called Gun Squad, or something. She might blab about my thoughts regarding guns to a business, a workplace let’s say, and I could be fired. I am pulled aside by a horrible boss who then says, “Ma’am, you’re fired.” J. would have been referenced as having told Boss that I said what I said about guns, and the boss would have had every right to fire me because he/she is not happy with me seeing J. for counseling. The boss wouldn’t care.

Trump’s HIPAA trumping is not healthy or accepting for those who have mental illness, and the mental illness people have is no joke. Gun control is great, but we still need to give folks incentives to keep away from guns. Let’s suppose Robert Heinlein’s book Red Planet and its license applied. The smart people would call upon that license’s oath and they’d have to follow it. Let’s say the oath said that no gun wearer is to use the gun unless it’s for protection. No licensed civilian gun owner is to use said gun in times of war unless a military grade license is sought. That would be just two lines of a credo that all gun owners will take if Hilary is elected. But if Trump takes office, gun owners will be allowed to kill Treyvons and those who truly need the guns like I might, those folks won’t get them. Guns are a handy tool in keeping the burglars out, and you just might only have to wave the darn thing in the air, loaded, but a single round might never leave the chambers if you do it right. You just have to tell the burglar or potential bad guy that “I mean business. Get the hell out of my house.” Every man and woman has a right to life, and privacy is part of it. But Trump’s plan to eliminate HIPAA is bad for those who have these issues. While I do believe that releases have both good and bad sides, I do think that confidentiality should be kept, even in cases where guardians are wielding their guardianships like swords against the wards. I am currently hiding my footprint and … well, not really. But I will say this: my father and mother have had to be blocked on Facebook because they can’t keep their snotty noses out of my love life. The guys I’m with is none of my parents’ business. With Trump’s elimination of confidentiality, even if safety is an issue, it would go far beyond this. My parents would be allowed to sterilize or even commit an act of abuse against a daughter who’s either had sex outside marriage or dated guys they didn’t like. A teenage girl who’s been raped, and a Muslim at this, will no longer be safe because of Trump. Trump will ban Muslims, but of course that won’t fly with the Supreme Court and will result in lawsuits. I can’t wait for Trump to be impeached or recalled the instant he’s sworn in. Hilary should be elected, regardless of shady stuff people talk about. It’s not her fault about Benghazi so I’d like to say this one thing: Hilary knows where the priorities lie, doing good is the number one priority, killing off those who are considered unworthy is not on Hilary’s mind. She will be all right, and I do believe she will support vets better. Hilary will also do things to improve our domestic laws. We must take care of our own people, but this country cannot do this under Republican kindergartners who are constantly arguing and fighting about whose colored blocks they can have to break. That’s how it looks to me.

Well, Government Whoes and Recipes … Galore!

Well, the government is bitching and itching to go, and while this is going on, this site is refreshing and refreshing, maybe it’s a blessing, but not sure. Here I am having hijacked my boyfriend’s Chromebook for the moment, but I found some good stuff for recipes. Sadly, we’re cooped up in an apartment, nowhere to go and no money to get there. Believe me this situation is no different than no friends, a parent hovering over you, and nobody else but family to speak with at all. All you would have are virtual friends, and what good is it when your friends can’t visit you for real?

But here’s the scandal: lol I have recipes that I’d like to share. I’ve had to change the thing on WP so tht Chrome would cooperate and I could type this stupid entry, so … I’m just here.

Pretty soon, we’re probably gonna be in need of furniture, and delivery? That’s the only way because I don’t have a truck and can’t drive a truck. Ugh.

So, What About Arranged Marriages?: What Benefits and Drawbacks?

As we approach wedding season, June being wedding season for some and May being for others, I’d like to briefly but candidly point to some things parents should know about forced arranged marriages versus compatible marriages versus love marriages.
First of all, let’s look at our culture. We are experiencing a real crisis when it comes to the meaning of commitment, love, and loyalty, three essentials to a strong marriage. In America, it used to be that you were so committed when you were married, and it was long understood that divorce was not an option. Today, with the advent of online dating, the increased understanding of domestic abuse, and increased understanding of mental consequences of this abuse, divorce has risen up by 50%. In American society, marriage should be something wanted by both parties, but a woman should look for signs that her man is not Mr. Right. Among these signs is possessive behavior, inability to treat his female family correctly and with respect–and there is a right way to treat a female family member or nonmember–and these signs may leave a woman wondering why she married the bastard in the first place.
In American culture, marriage is viewed as a pure sexual license, subject to being called a “social contract.” Well, it isn’t. God designed marriage for loving couples, same gender or otherwise. I don’t care what church anyone belongs to. I have same gender lover friends who are perfectly able to love, period. The nonacceptance of same-gender loving couples is paramount in American society and in particular, in evangelical circles. Hence, I do not wish to be associated with the nonacceptance of people at all, and there is a lot of it in these places. Flatirons Church of Boulder recently came under fire for barring a transgender woman from women’s events. This shows nonacceptance. I don’t care how and what view you have of God’s children. God obviously made that lady a man, but she wasn’t happy. God gave her the ability to transfer all that to a female body, so two words for that church: shut up … let her be a lady I say. She could also get all the good stuff that comes with an American wedding, including a dress.
In a culture like that of India, however, marriage is about a few things: taking care of one’s daughter. The daughter must bring a dowry, this including jewelry, money, a good family and other items of desire for the groom’s family. Arranged marriages can sometimes but more often be a breeding ground for abuse and throwing a bride into a state of helplessness. Arranged marriage comes in two different flavors: mutually arranged marriage, which is about something of love and a contract as well; or forced marriage, which is more often the choice of rural parents who are so desperate to feed the family. A forced marriage then takes on a dangerous trend, child marriage, which includes a child bride that may or may not be raped to the point of pregnancy and diseases far worse than the mind can comprehend forever such as AIDS.
A child bride is usually eleven years old at the youngest, but I’ve seen it happen where a five-year-old marries. For more on child marriage in Yemen, I’d look at Nujood Ali’s book, I am Nujood, age ten and Divorced. Nujood was forced to marry a man three times her age, and she was only nine. In Yemen, there is a very perverted proverb, “If you want good luck, marry a nine-year-old girl.” Well, oftentimes the men who marry such girls lie to the bride’s family’s face and touch her even if she is a little child. A child’s reproductive organs are not developed, so raping her isn’t going to help matters. Usually, such a bride is sold for this or that much currency and then, she is bound by sexual desire of her husband.
Parents, with the advent of the Internet, arranged marriages become more dangerous. It is obvious that the arranged marriages on Punjabi Nuptials and other sites may not be a good idea. Who exactly are you marrying your daughter or son to? Did your community’s matchmaker, gataka, or whatever actually approve of a good person or just a username? While we’re all tempted to think we are taking care of our daughter when we marry her to someone, we have to remember that she is her own person, and she will balk if we act in a way that she doesn’t like. Breaking her spirit by abusing her sexually whether by way of your own body or the body of her husband is not a good idea. If you are able to access the Internet and you are in a culture like this, I’d remember that marriage doesn’t always then bring love. Love brings marriage in this global society. Kahili’s marriage to me would be out of love, and trust me, we love each other. … That’s all I can say for now.
Beth

What Is Important to Me

Here are some facts: the rich are the malcontents of the world, draped in gold and silver candles but not seeing what’s important. Sadly, men such as Donald J. Trump are not seeing the importance of being with others and treating women with respect. Sadly, he’s got plenty of company.
Lady Gaga, Madonna, Britney Spears, and many ungrateful rich persons do not realize that there are three questions that determine what is truly important.
While watching Sailor Moon, I was so moved by the affection that Queen Serenity shared with her daughter, who was called Small Lady, or in Japanese, Chibi Sailor Moon later in the episode. Small Lady felt special but she’d been lonely and I could truly relate. Chibi Usa was truly lonesome in a world, but it was making the friends she did that assisted in Sailor Moon’s defeat of Death Phantom, and it took Sailor Pluto giving her life for this to happen.
I am about to say something that is truly important, so listen up: The person that I am with is important, most important. The next question of what is the most important thing to do is answered by many things, but the truth is that helping friends is important. True friendship is when a friend is willing to give it all for you, and Kahili is like that. So I got emotional after seeing such affection between queen and princess. I cried a bit too much for my own good then we listened to some crazy stuff.
Anyway, I’m almost dog tired, but my baby is next to me, and he’s a sweet guy. Too sweet for words.
Beth