Yes, yes, you expected a Brave New World completion or something, but ain’t happenin’ now so just relax. I want to talk about my religious ventures, something I’m really happy about just happened. And it all began with a search on Google, god if I ever mention that again, I don’t know where I’ll be next day.
I want to first thank Lavender, one of my good friends, who lovingly refers to me as Spiralhead. She was the one who got me thinking in the UU direction, and her dad, Will, and his sband the Tribe, did some amazing stuff. I’m not gonna lie. But then, I decided to see if such a loving community of good beloved community could be found in my backyard. It began with me searching for a minister who would be willing to put together a wedding ceremony for me and Trenton, and we couldn’t do a wedding in a venue, but in that small apartment, we shared something incredible. So we had a small ceremony, a hybrid due to covid, in our apartment officiated by Jenny, who was intern minister for Jefferson Unitarian Church. Yes, it’s a UU church, and I found that my buddies in this church are amazing and my anxiety always seems to sneak up on me, but this church seems to understand that I can make decisions, including marriage. They also said that I had agency, and it’s in their actions more than their words. I want to say that Reverend Wendy was amazing in telling me where to go to get the care I need, but right now, I’m savoring the thought of Jenny doing bigger things in ministry. She has, as of this writing, yet to send me a big fluffy paper invite, well a digital fluffy invite, to her ordination ceremony. And guess what? This will be a lot more awesome than witnessing Holy Orders, which for those living under rocks, is a Catholic priest’s ordination ceremony where they take vows and drink to the bishop’s obedience and all that crap. I have no idea but I like the UU thing a lot better than the Catholic thing. Priests in Catholic churches are chosen by a fire and brimstone God and a bishop, and only males can make decisions. But in the UU church, women are leading, having agency, and protecting their decisions and decision making powers. Yes, I drink pop, but no, I don’t want a guardian policing purchases and food, and they acknowledge that I should have agency over my life, and that is a huge thing for me. I want to have children, this church promises they’ll bless the kids. The church will educate them in good religious teachings, positive and neutral teachings about everything, and allow them agency over whether to become a minister. My future daughters will have the ability to dream big, they will say, “Mommy, I want to be a minister in a church.” I will be the one saying, “You can do that, you have all the guts to do it. So get out and make it happen, girl.” I will say this to my daughter with a smile on my face, whether she’s six or sixteen. I will never let go, ever, of the thought of women leading. Reverend Wendy is amazing, and she is the best. I’ve been thinking about all the good stuff, the bad stuff, and the ugly stuff I’ve learnt over the years. And honestly, I don’t believe in just one male fire and brimstone God and his minions sitting on a throne, making all the decisions over a woman’s body. I like Jesus, I believe in his true teachings, but the people? Forget that. I can’t go to a so called Christian church, and I want to be able to raise a positively respectful family from the beginning. Thank you all for reading.