A letter to the Denver 7 peoples about guardianship

Author’s note: I forgot to mention that because I call people out for being guardian activists on behalf of upholding the status quo, or because I do speak out against unjust things, I got a death threat from a woman in Avilar, someone who was cowardice enough to disconnect her phone after I published it. Well, she deserved whatever came to her because you don’t threaten people’s lives. It’s illegal. And I don’t want hate crimes to be committed against me or my partner.

I’d like to share the email I just wrote the Denver Channel folks, though. Jennifer is their investigative girl, and she’s good. Really good. She and this producer did a story on guardianship fraud. I went and wrote the Great American novel, wink wink, about the whole thing. This is the signification of my email.

To whom it may concern,I’d like to reach out to Jennifer and Joe, who were so awesome in bringing a story about guardianship fraud to a Colorado news media channel. I hope it catches the attention of social services workers in this state as they really don’t seem to, um, care a lot like in the Netflix film. My name is Beth Taurasi. I was the victim of guardianship abuse in my native Florida, so I moved here to escape it. When I learned from LuAnn Fleming and others about what guardianship does, I pushed to have it removed. But removing a guardianship is not easy, not in any state. I was lucky to have a doc and a nurse in Colorado say well, she’s capable and competent and all that crap. But it’s ableist, sexist too. I saw the segments with Britney’s songs, and I was so supercharged because I know for a fact that Britney’s guardianship and mine are pretty similar, but different too.I was born totally blind and could never see the beautiful blue sky. But what bothered my parents was that I wanted to experience teenage girl stuff, dating and the like, but my parents were patriarchal, and my dad is someone I want to call Patriarch number 1. He might have been the one to orchestrate the guardianship and isolation I went through. I was told many times I couldn’t call a friend, talk to someone, and all that stuff. Recently I learned the power of friendship and check ins with friends because I was losing my mind over some things, drowned my sorrows in Gatorade, mind you it wasn’t Jack Daniels, but I always worried that my friends would get irate with me and say don’t call me again. Part of this problem probably stemmed from guardians like the Patriarch number 1 going after my friends and telling them how to interact with me. They treated me like an animal, not like a human being. This went on until I was told how to use the Internet, oh you will only use it from 10 AM to 4 PM EST or EDT whatever. I was living in Florida, and was begging for a trip to Littleton in Colorado to get training on the Blindness front. But I was so emotionally abused and manipulated, gaslit by professionals and teachers alike, so much because they were calling me bossy and silencing my leadership abilities. Now, I can’t even get a job and career and I don’t frankly think I will be able to safely have one because of a few different factors, mainly the activism and such. I read this book called Youth to Power, and it says you have to find your why. Well, my why with guardianship activism is because after five years, I left Florida for Littleton, and even after, I wasn’t given enough support from my parents, and they never wanted me to have money for food. I would be starving in half my classes, I passed out once, though I did get some if not a lot of care. I ended up at one time trying to find a spiritual group other than the Roman Catholic church which was where my parents came from. My partner, Trenton Matthews, is the most supportive partner I’ve had, and he has to put up with me sometimes being angry at stuff but I usually am comforted by his presence more than anything. In the years before I met my amazing partner, however, I had to endure abusive relationships, namely those of a guy online and I lacked any support for my ambitions. I wish I could go to college, but there’s a debt and I didn’t receive guidance or enough Pell grant money to go. I would fill out my FAFSA but my parents’ income might have something to do with why I am afraid I won’t get Pell money. Who would give such money to someone who wants to make a wedding a social justice issue for example? My other problems may likely be the result of me even speaking out about guardianship and the evils it likes to do and the damage left behind. When I posted on a Facebook community help thing, I got degraded by an ex and a friend of his, someone I knew and hadn’t spoken to, and this strange female figure in the blindness community. Guardianships and the blindness community are intertwined. I’m helping a gal in Orlando get her parents to shut up and let her have her SSI check and honestly, the other problem is that all parents with disabilities are liable to either not teach their kids financial skills, after which they steal the check and hold the disabled person hostage from boyfriends, friends, and others. I’m going to work on a book that helps people escape such a brutality, and it is brutality.I”m open to a news interview. I want to talk to Jennifer because when I had guardianship in Florida, the Colorado instructors in Littleton’s Colorado center for the Blind on West Shepard thought I was good for nothing, and even if it wasn’t the director Julie Deden herself, there were people in that group who were toxic. My boyfriend at the time was a Muslim, so I got Islamophobes talking about this and that and not focusing on their work. I trucked on and graduated the center, but then I realized how my expectations and the guardianship subject had been muted. None of my concerns were given to my parents. They sent all the students home from the center apartments, it wasn’t what they currently have, but when I got home, my parents forced the Catholic faith on me, I couldn’t wear hijab, I was a Muslim at the time, and sure I cared about Jesus, but guardianship allowed my parents to do spiritual abuse. I was practically done when I got back to Littleton, so I never went back. The guardianship was discharged in December of 2020 after I was committed by ceremony to Trenton, and I would use the word commitment ceremony, not wedding, in any report because weddings are usually legal and we can’t lose our benefits.The guardianship in this country is the worst thing I have ever seen. I did say I was helping a gal get out of hers, and it’s no different than mine. My former guardians used to tell me that a certain man I liked was “sexually experienced” and they forbade me from calling a school friend because he was younger, black, and Caribbean. I am done with my parents, for the most part because they don’t even talk to me much. Their actions created a rift in the family, the blindness community responded with anger and toxic commentary. My best friend of ten years is gone because he chose to respond that way. Now I can’t even talk to certain people because they’ll call me spoiled for requesting housing and other things. People simply don’t believe when I say that guardianship abuse must be curbed, stopped, even here in Colorado. I am working with Rocky Mountain Human services because the toxic culture of the blindness community contributeed to mental illness and so on, so I make it a point to use in home care services, mainly the homemaker services, and my caseworker knows the story. Rhonda Cordova, however, does not wish to help me get safe and clean housing. I wonder why. I wonder if it’s a privilege or hatred of me in particular, but the guardianship might have made the difference. Rhonda was reported for being apathetic toward my situation, and she got mad. It had to do with my building’s bedbug crap, and I can’t find housing anywhere else but yeah, the guardianship is leaving me unemployed and living in a bedbug infested chateaux. There are many layers of this and other things I could tell you as to why Colorado should get rid of guardianship in favor of supportive decision making. Pat in the story could benefit from this. He needs to be given a pet dog to play with, people need to let him have money, and perhaps the state should settle for more because he lost his estate. pat has intellectual disability, which is a bit different than me, but still, when I heard the story, even Pat knew something wasn’t right. Lawmakers should make it illegal for a parental guardianship to take place in the cases of disabled kids. ask my main caregiver, Maria Weir, she has a daughter with autism and we talk frequently about issues of social justice, one of which is guardianship. Her little daughter could end up even dead from a guardian doing a bad and evil job at caring for her. I’ve become this social justice warrior because of my life experiences, and I’m fighting some battles of my own as well. Please call me at 720-435-7407 and I’m glad to meet with you. Even if care is going on, you may come in. Please don’t scare my landlord it’s not about her.Thank you so much.PS you can check out my blog and website. I’ll copy the text of this email to my blog after a response.Beth

Letter to my ex boyfriend and others, TW ableism and sexual harassment/fragile masculinity mentioned here

The following piece is dedicated to Blake Tucker, with whom I spent 2 and a half years as a girlfriend, but I’d also like to give a shout out to Jessie, my messy and altogether very good friend from Miami, and thank him for letting me open my eyes. This piece should probably be in the feminist essay collections, and I was inspired to write this because of activists like Jessica Valenti and more importantly, there’s a Muskogee lady that wrote this brilliant essay on how women have been protecting each other in Native American circles. If anyone thinks I weaponized or did something wrong, please read below and feel free to be constructive, positive, and above all, careful what you tell me.

Dear Blake,

Last week was hell. And I couldn’t believe what you did to yourself. I’m not here to discuss a vibrator, sexual freedom, or God. I’m here to discuss you, and how you contributed to a very big problem here in America, got duped by Christians who are telling you that women like me don’t deserve to be heard, and you silently watch me get bitten up by bugs, attacked by heathen Ableists with no logic whatsoever about thee disabled experience on my end, and you don’t even connect with your Native American self. Like it or not, I think I need to tell yoou my story again and for the rest of the people reading this, especially activists, feminists, and others who are interested, I’ll explain where each of us has been.

the whole thing about vibrators is. just plain misunderstanding. Blake, you said to me shortly before we broke up something that absolutely was an affront to me being destressed in a time when stress was everywhere. I won’t write it here, you’ll only get mad at me and such. Blake, I care enough about you as a friend to say you should still go to your church, but I want to present a picture of God you never even drew, saw, or might not think exists.

Jesus, the Christ you report to for missions and so on, was an inclusive figure. Jesus was, however, used to mess up Native cultures to the point of death and nonexistence. The Spanish, particularly those in New Mexico and Arizona, used Jesus as a way to convert what they saw as “heathens.” But it has harmful consequences still today. In the ancient times, if you rolled with Jesus and the rich Eurocentric stuff, you got treated better. Is that fair? Jesus would never have said, kill the ones who don’t convert. I see a parallel between the 1500 to 1700 missions in the sixteenth through the eighteenth centuries and Muhammad the prophet’s weird and deadly fatwa, religious order, to “fight and slay the pagans where ye find them.” Muslims today have this issue with holy war, and among their so called missions is to convert everybody or make them pay with the tax or their lives. It has some rash consequences, including the genocide of the Coptic Christians, and the Jewish people have to contend with the power they are misusing. There’s a tribe in Iraq and Syria called the Yezidi that we have touched on, and because IS, or Islamic State, wants to make the whole world Muslim, you got Yezidi people dying or fighting. Nadia Murad, if you read this, I hope you see the same pattern I am about to describe below.

Blake, when the peoples you represent, all of these peoples, saw the Spanish and the pale faced white humans trashing their beliefs, going after the Native women, the men had little power to do with it. Do you know why the Trail of Tears happened? Because of a white idiot named Andrew Jackson, and the history books don’t tell you enough about it, only to whitewash it. Native beliefs were to be eradicated along with they themselves. There’s something about Natives I am drawn to, and let me explain what it is.

Muskogee activist Sarah Deer writes of a method of protecting women, an ancient survivor network and it whispers too. Deer says that “gossip is an English word” in her essay with the same words as its title. She says that women in the Indian country or first nations people would whisper that a man is dangerous, do things to protect each other, etc etc. Men would get axed not by death or killing, but there’s a whole healing process that goes with the whisper network. Would my white women friends like to try it out? I certainly want to, but Blake, here’s the deal: the tribes affirm women, LGBTQI+ and blind and deaf people. In ancient times, the Native tribes of the West, particularly tribes such as the Hopi and the Navajo, would integrate their deaf and they’d never, never seek to cure blindness. Sure, some babies lived and died as babies but it was never a shameful thing, and there was lots. of medicine to be had in the spiritual ceremony and traditions. There’s even a legend of the Cherokee tribes that affirms women’s power to give life as a weapon of sorts. When a woman in some tribes has her moon time, her menstruation, she would be allowed to go to this sweat lodge thing where she can recuperate and such, and she rests and stretches out the cramps from Hell. But imagine for a moment that this same feeling a woman has could be used to save a race of people. It did in this legend, called Stonecoat, where a stone guy tries to rob the people, kill them, etc., but seven “granddaughters” weaken him in a big show of badassery where they say, “I’m in the sacred way” each time he walks by. He’d try to convince the girls they’re dirty, but the badassery just threw him to the ground. It’s my favorite female legend of Native sorts. There are many others, and I can tell you that Natives had Romeo and Juliet in the legend of Mina-Sauk before we even had Shakespeare. These ancient traditions may not have anything with God or Jesus, but I can tell you this much: weaponizing Jesus as a way of dissing me is not going to work.

Native medicines and beliefs and ancient peoples did not necessarily have anything against a woman making herself feel good. I don’t see much of that, but regarding your comments to me before we broke, the vibrator was a doctor prescribed thing against what we used to call “female hysteria.” For disabled females, this is a common thing you might say back then. Today’s disabled female is likely to experience violence, I have, and isolation, which I have as well. I’m done trying to tell you that disabled women experience violence and you say, I know I know, but Blake, the thing is that America was built on an unfair and unjust patriarchal social hierarchy that has many layers to it. Here’s how it works:

You have cisgender, straight and able white males on top. Follow that with cisgender able straight females, then black straight cisgender males and females respectively, and then you have cisgender straight indigenous folks, followed by all manner of disabled people, black and white included, but then at the very bottom you have nonbinary and sexual minorities. This hierarchy is disgusting and I want it to stop. We don’t need cisgender straight males running things. Native American disabled males who don’t follow a big Evangelical megachurch or even a small one like yours are likely to face homicide, taunts from the higher up people, etc., so I know you would want to stay put in your church. Sure your friends are cool, but there’s something I’m coming up on that I’m not cool with.

It wasn’t Native women who told me you flirted too much. It was a male who, surprise surprise is a disabled Hispanic cisgender straight dude, but oh my god, we’ve been friends since who knows when. Note that I didn’t mention Hispanics in the hierarchy thing though because you have two or three different kinds, including black ones and white ones, so I just go by the black versus the white. NOt all Latinos are white and not all are black, it’s a mixed bag. This friend of mine is amazing, I call him Jessie the Messy, and he’s just plain cool. He’s got his own stuff, works and has a cool head on his shoulders. Jessie warned me about your tendencies, but I was stupid as usual and didn’t read into things because I’ve been taught not to. But sure enough, you get used by someone else, and break another’s heart. Or she broke yours, I don’t care how the relationship panned out. If any girlfriends you have know that you disrespected my beliefs as a feminist and didn’t understand why I was so deeply hurt by the people purporting to believe in Jesus, and I’ll tell that story now.

When you broke it off with me, the now former preacher at Sovereign Grace Community Church in Westminster decided to call me a whore. A whore for being with Trenton. I brought him there in an effort to solidify friendships and maybe even see how the people would react. But thankfully, years later, well, I’m glad I and Trenton haven’t gone. I have a buddy in chorus that recommended I not live in Westminster because of what she called a “scary megachurch” but there are plenty of those in Westminster. What Sovereign Grace did can still be felt today. I attend a UU church, Unitarian universalist, and have found that it’s not only Jesus that suffices for spiritual teaching and knowledge. I can’t subscribe to this notion of “sin” because it’s too flexible and it stings too broadly on a lot of subjects. Wearing a short skirt if you’re identifying as female? Sin, according to the beliefs you’ve chosen. Playing with your own hair if you’re female? Sin again. And the notion of sin is an excuse to make my life more expensive, so think about why your mom, aunts, sisters, all have to pay more for tampons. There is a luxury tax imposed because the government is sexist. The tax code for pink products, feminine stuff, is completely sexist. I only want others to understand that what you did to me represents a bigger problem with guys. Trenton tries to be supportive, and he is extremely cool, but you and anyone trying to attack me is not warranted in doing so.

Here’s what I want you to do. Stop talking to females who use you. I don’t use anyone, so stop it. IF you continue to be a flirt with girls after you’ve married, I’ll have to do what Sarah Deer does and warn her that this might not be the time to marry. I may not say your name, but still. Blake, I also recommend you reading Unladylike, a field guide to smashing the patriarchy and claiming your space. You don’t have to be female to read it, for real. Feminism is for everybody, and it benefits everybody. I do not hate men, as some will tell you, I just want accountability. You heard thee recent story of Josh Dugger, right? I was shocked and heartbroken because no man should be viewing child porn, but Trenton and I know that it’s illegal. We also know that Ashley Madison is not a good place to be if you’re trying to stay faithful. Vibrators aren’t the problem, and women aren’t the problem. Men are. Josh is highly unfaithful and abusive toward kids by viewing child porn. The victims who were used for this pornography are also being abused by Josh because in some way they might have been forced into it. Child pornography is something I know you could never see yourself doing, but if you were sighted, Blake, I wouldn’t be surprised if you went off and told someone that I didn’t look like your ideal woman, and it’s not your fault. Blake, you do have a good heart, but don’t get yourself dragged into conversations where you don’t belong. Lyn, one of the women who did the bad stuff on my community help post, has had nothing to do. She’s speaking from a class, race, and support privilege. I hate that, and data shows that minorities don’t just get subpar supports, they also get subpar commentary and subpar choices for schooling and other things. Your people are in trouble, and it’s not your fault. Why not summon the power of Wilma Mankiller to be your guide? Why not summon the ancestors to help you with some sort of realization of who you are? Jesus is great and all, but Jesus would never want you to label every woman’s desire a sin. The traditions that state that Adams are in charge and Eves are not do not apply to me and all of us anymore. I. can’t stand by and watch as women are sexually assaulted and no one believe them. The bedbug issue in this apartment complex scared my caregiver, and it scared the company, and yet the caseworker wasn’t there when she needed to be, and I don’t bllame her for it, but she needs to show up for me and do for me because I’m her client, and so should she do this for other clients. NASW clearly does put client safety in their code of ethics. I’ve written my local Senator for the state district 4, and I hope to have an appointment with her because the laws and policies that are in place are enabling Lyns everywhere to ruin lives like mine. Your friend Jennifer thinks she can get away with practically anything, and worse, both those girls spoke from a support class privilege. They had family support, I don’t have it, and they’re white, straight, etc. Lyn has a job, and she didn’t earn the employability. It’s all in the numbers, so look carefully.

Blake, please do some homework and get back to me. Jesus would demand that you apologize, and I apologize if what I said about you was hurtful, but what you did really wasn’t your fault per se. Though you chose this set of beliefs about Jesus and women, yu do have a choice to enact safer ways of interacting with the females in your life such that you don’t get ire from Jessies everywhere, or even your family’s women. Don’t subscribe to this notion that sin is everything, and it’s not sinful for a woman to read or write. Please read the Handmaid’s Tale and the Testaments, authored by Margaret Atwood, and she really has a lot of wisdom about why she wrote these books.

Beth

My UU Adventures Volume 1: Safer Spaces In Many Places

Dear readers,

Yes, yes, you expected a Brave New World completion or something, but ain’t happenin’ now so just relax. I want to talk about my religious ventures, something I’m really happy about just happened. And it all began with a search on Google, god if I ever mention that again, I don’t know where I’ll be next day.

I want to first thank Lavender, one of my good friends, who lovingly refers to me as Spiralhead. She was the one who got me thinking in the UU direction, and her dad, Will, and his sband the Tribe, did some amazing stuff. I’m not gonna lie. But then, I decided to see if such a loving community of good beloved community could be found in my backyard. It began with me searching for a minister who would be willing to put together a wedding ceremony for me and Trenton, and we couldn’t do a wedding in a venue, but in that small apartment, we shared something incredible. So we had a small ceremony, a hybrid due to covid, in our apartment officiated by Jenny, who was intern minister for Jefferson Unitarian Church. Yes, it’s a UU church, and I found that my buddies in this church are amazing and my anxiety always seems to sneak up on me, but this church seems to understand that I can make decisions, including marriage. They also said that I had agency, and it’s in their actions more than their words. I want to say that Reverend Wendy was amazing in telling me where to go to get the care I need, but right now, I’m savoring the thought of Jenny doing bigger things in ministry. She has, as of this writing, yet to send me a big fluffy paper invite, well a digital fluffy invite, to her ordination ceremony. And guess what? This will be a lot more awesome than witnessing Holy Orders, which for those living under rocks, is a Catholic priest’s ordination ceremony where they take vows and drink to the bishop’s obedience and all that crap. I have no idea but I like the UU thing a lot better than the Catholic thing. Priests in Catholic churches are chosen by a fire and brimstone God and a bishop, and only males can make decisions. But in the UU church, women are leading, having agency, and protecting their decisions and decision making powers. Yes, I drink pop, but no, I don’t want a guardian policing purchases and food, and they acknowledge that I should have agency over my life, and that is a huge thing for me. I want to have children, this church promises they’ll bless the kids. The church will educate them in good religious teachings, positive and neutral teachings about everything, and allow them agency over whether to become a minister. My future daughters will have the ability to dream big, they will say, “Mommy, I want to be a minister in a church.” I will be the one saying, “You can do that, you have all the guts to do it. So get out and make it happen, girl.” I will say this to my daughter with a smile on my face, whether she’s six or sixteen. I will never let go, ever, of the thought of women leading. Reverend Wendy is amazing, and she is the best. I’ve been thinking about all the good stuff, the bad stuff, and the ugly stuff I’ve learnt over the years. And honestly, I don’t believe in just one male fire and brimstone God and his minions sitting on a throne, making all the decisions over a woman’s body. I like Jesus, I believe in his true teachings, but the people? Forget that. I can’t go to a so called Christian church, and I want to be able to raise a positively respectful family from the beginning. Thank you all for reading.

Beth

Shut Down Christian private schools? Let’s Take A Look, And a Life Affirmation for One Student

Dear readers,

I’ve been hashing this issue out for a while, but schools that purport to be Christian private schools should never get the chance to put bisexual and homosexual kids down. Chloe Shelton was kicked out of a school in the second grade because she supposedly had a crush on a girl. There was another teen that was kicked out of a school for having a rainbow cake for her birthday. Sexual immorality my ass! The kicking out of Chloe Shelton was pure and inadmissible bigotry and hatred. This is not what Jesus would say if he came back here. What would Jesus do? If a child has homosexual tendencies, that is no grounds for dismissal for any reason. St. Teresa’s School is a perfect example of a school that bans LGBTQI+ individuals because of their so called Catholic teachings. I’d like to affirm Chloe’s decision, and I want Chloe to know a few things.

1. God loves everybody. Jesus loves everybody, he loved people who were considered outcasts, so why this school kicked her out is anyone’s guess. Bigotry and hatred have no place in this school, or any school at all.

2. You can’t fix stupid. I’m sorry, but fixing stupid isn’t the way to end the practice of expelling students from school for being gay or transgender or anything. the Unitarian churches I see don’t put up with things like this.

3. Every child is precious in the eyes of the Lord and the universe, and I believe that if Jesus truly understood what humanity did or said about Chloe’s actions, he’d be all, no, that’s not life affirming. This school should burn in Hell for what they did to Chloe, and there’s no excuse for any Christian school to be operating under the banner of bigotry and gender conformity.

I showed you readers the dress code from STS and wanted to let you all know that it screams rape culture, gender conformity, and a hatred for those who don’t marry before having sex. Teenage pregnancy is not the girl’s fault, and especially if she’s been raped. I hope the Christian schools today will analyze their Christianity, and understand that the way they practice will get them burned up by the lightning that God will supposedly rain down on these schools. They don’t practice love, only hatred and bigotry. Private schools are also expensive, so expensive that I would never send my own future children to STS and schools like it. Chloe, if you want to know what I feel about this, you are welcome to read my blog and understand that life affirming care is the way to go for you. If it becomes evident that you are bisexual or have a crush on a female, don’t be afraid. Come out and play with your friends. I hope you can find peace in knowing that one day, all the bigots and those who hate you for who you love and who you are will not get God’s blessing, not ever. Jesus never said that gay people were evil or wicked, and all this crap about sexual immorality makes me sick. To tell the truth, Chloe, I threw the Bible back in the preachers’ faces because of this whole bullcrap about sexual immorality and marriage or living with a man outside legal tying the knot. I’m a disabled girl with a disabled partner, and if we legally wedded, we’d be losing healthcare, protections from SSA, social security administration, and our future would be bleak for the kids. Imagine my children getting nothing but hand me downs, going to schools where they are treated like garbage, bullied, whatever. I don’t want that for you or for anyone’s kids. Chloe, you don’t even have to believe in the God of the Bible, you can do the things you want with whichever practice you want, and that’s the beauty of America. The United States of America clearly states that in the first amendment that Congress shall make no laws, “establishing the free exercise of religion, and of the right to peaceable assembly and of the press.” The First Amendment also can be interpreted to say that you have the right to an opinion, but you don’t have to kneel on the floor and pray to Allah or get your head cut off. Most Muslim places have repressive regimes and laws that say that you have to be Muslim and marry a man and all that crap. Just remember, you are in a blessed country, a place where you can be you. Just do your thing, and in your new school, I hope you will find new friends who actually like you, and a teacher who believes in you.

With love,

Beth

Who Should Really Get the Medal of Honor Under President Biden?

Dear readers,

I have a long list of unsung heroes to go through, but I think President Biden should award the Presidential Medal of Freedom to the following people:

Ayaan Hirsi Ali. Yes, some of you may think she stirs the pot and boils Muslims over, but she is a fine woman, she stirs up the soup because it needs to be stirred up. Her latest book told us that Isis was dangerous because it was rooted in Islam itself. The beauty of America is that you can back out of communities like the islamic centers and not get your head sawed off. That principle, established the moment the Constitution was ratified, says that Congress doesn’t have a state or national religion. Fuck the idea that Christians founded America, or that America was founded on Christian or Biblical laws. It was a bunch of Puritans who said they wanted to practice how they wanted, but a stupid King said no. This is how our country was born. Essentially.

Shania Twain. Yes, a Canadian songsttress of country music. She’s done some amazing things, but she and Dolly Parton should get the Medal of Freedom because they are both good people, albeit country singers, but Shania comes from a mixed race family, Ojibwe and black and white and all the rest. Shania was born Eileen Regina Edwards but became Shania Twain because of things she discusses in her book From This Moment On. Twain is an unsung hero of sorts, and she’s a nature lover. Dolly of course because she changed the name of her Stampede and maintained Dollywood. I’d love to see her theme park, but Dolly has also done a musical called Christmas On the Square. You should have seen it, made me cry like a baby at the end.

Dan Fisher, first time I mentioned this guy, but Dan Fisher is a former FLDS guy who saved a bunch of boys and girls from Warren Jeffs. If he doesn’t have that medal, then give to this guy already. Fisher deserves the medal because of his deeds and actions surrounding the Diversity Foundation, Ultradent, and all the good stuff he’s done for boys and girls alike. He helped Carolyn Jessop escape with her eight children and among other things, tried to help the lost boys. Fisher is another unsung hero, and I better make sure everybody smiles while he gets it. We need dentistry breakthroughs anyway.

Lastly, I think we need to nominate someone I know personally. Retired army dude and awesome football extraordinaire Robert Zemcik, and here’s why. Robert took the protect and serve thing seriously, and I bet his mom, my awesome Aunt Donna, would cry her eyes out if she knew what we need in guys like Robert. He understands what “protect and serve” means, does not align with bad guys, and knows what extremist people do. He served two tours of duty, I won’t say where, but he’s someone who is totally awesome, loves people, dogs too, and has some affiliation with Wounded Warrior Project. Mind you, I think the guys in the Wounded Warrior project should get all a bunch of medals of freedom because of what they do for vets like my cousin, who is a strong and sturdy person who would never be where he is without a bit of military service, but he didn’t want to do soldiering after what he witnessed in the news. He’s been all over, I’ve seen him here and there and everywhere. But this guy is just one of many veterans who needs a damn medal of honor, especially because he didn’t have the gall to insurrect that day at the Capitol. He knows better and loves this country probably as much as his girlfriend, his adventures, whatever. Perhaps if I could, I’d ask him to come out of the woodwork and present himself to Biden for the honors. Or is Biden looking at veterans like him? Here’s another thought.

I would suppose that Joe Biden should award Scottie Smiley, that West Point blind guy, a medal of freedom. What’s my point here? the Medal of Freedom should go to people with integrity and honor, and all the people I just nominated have integrity and honor. Integrity is so important, and honor of one’s country and the greater good is another huge thing. Rush Limbaugh and those other guys Trump loved did not have honor. Alex Jones and Infowars is not a sign of honor or integrity. Alex Jones was crazy, no matter how you sliced and diced it. My cousin and grandfathers at least had some degree of honor or respect for God and country. Put your universal beliefs in the mix, but my cousin needs the gold medal more than the average celebrity types.

I also want to nominate people who have been dismissed from military service because of gender identity. Biden plans to revoke that ban, and maybe he should award compensatory payments and the medal of freedom to these brave young people, these brave souls denied a chance to serve God and country because of gender reassignment or being transgender. It’s unfair and Trumpist to deny a whole group of people military service because they’re transgender. that’s not the same as being blind, having a disability, etc etc. I would never want to join the military as a blind person because I don’t want to be killed by a drill sergeant, nor do I think sexual favors for male soldiers should ever be allowed. Back to Robert. I don’t think he’s ever done anything to a female in the military. He’d rather have been with wives or girlfriends, but never someone who is just young enough or drunk. He’s not that stupid. Women in the military are regularly sexually harangued and harassed for being female, and that needs to stop. There’s a culture change underway at Fort Hood, where private Vanessa Geeian was killed. Why? Because the guy who did it wanted some, and she said no. I’d give her the posthumous medal of freedom because she didn’t give in, and gave her life in service to a country that should have stood up for her. Her assailant should be court martialed all right.

Thank you all for reading this entry. I want to tell you all that I’ve had a bad sleep schedule lately. I just hope to God I can get it in check. Also, I hope my cousin doesn’t seem angry at me for nominating him for the medal of freedom from President Biden, but he is just one of many who should get it. Wounded warriors everywhere rejoice.

I hope Shania and Dolly Parton find this blog and see how important it is that they present themselves as potential recipients of medals by President Biden. I dare not nominate myself.

Beth

Inauguration Letter to the President

Dear Mr. President,

I”m glad you were sworn in and I watched all the colorful ceremony in the morning yesterday. I’m also barely sad that Trump left, but that’s another discussion for another day. I want to remind you of my laundry list of things that I want to see get done, but I see you’re picking up things nicely. Let me jog your memory in case you forget.

First and foremost, the priority should be disabled people and covid 19. Blind people are in deep doo doo because of this virus, so let’s work together to get us out of deep doo doo and get us back to normal again. I like what you’re doing so far.

I’d also like to make sure you know that SSI marriage penalizing is off for me, and I won’t accept financial penalty for marrying my spouse and we’re committed together right now. Trenton and I had to do a commitment ceremony with the Unitarian church in Golden because we sure had nobody who was willing to do an actual ceremony of that kind without counseling, patriarchal stupidity, and submission to things not seen. I want you to end the practice and update the SSI program to reflect the times, reflect equality of disabled and nondisabled people.

I’d like to see experiments with universal income, and even if you earn millions of dollars, you should still keep a universal $2000 a month because that’s about enough for rent and living expenses and even if the millionaires donated that income, it would stimulate the economy and charities need donations now more than ever.

I want to see progress with China and a return to working with Wahway and other tech companies in China. As long as the Chinese government is put on notice about the Muslim forced labor and genocide, yeah. We need to urge Wahway and other companies not to work with Mr. Ping and all that so we can get some light on the Ouigars and their plight.

Thank you for ending that ugly Muslim travel ban. We need to open our doors to the Ouigar Muslims in China so they can get free and practice their religion here, where they should be free to be themselves. And they could create a whole new thing in America, so who knows.

Thank you for undoing the attacks on racial justice. I hope that by the time I have little kids in preschool, you have cemented racial bias training discussion in school, pulverized the 1776 commission, and done away with whitewashed history books in school. You don’t know how passionate I am about this issue. My own kids could be subjected to bullying unlike any we have seen growing up ourselves.

As a person with a disability, and as a potential parent, I want to emphasize that guardianship is an evil and crooked industry, more crooked than Donald. Guardianship encourages people like my parents to lock people like me and you up and steal things. My parents might have stolen assets from me, and I’m checking on that. I’m also looking into all kinds of issues my parents caused through guardianship. I may have to file a civil suit so I can support myself and kids, and kids are on the agenda. I want my children in the future to have money, toys, and a place to call home. But they can’t if their mom or dad can’t get a job, and we won’t be allowing the kids to go to Disney at all, even if Disneyland opens back up.

What I want to say, part II of the discussion about guardianship, is that my parents used it for racial biased motives. And these motives were loud and clear: don’t see Orien Henry because he’s black and you are crazy; don’t see Michael Bonnehome because he has a child and is sexually experienced, but moreover he’s black and you’re crazy. These motives should be checked in reports about the guardians and their care of the ward. The report should state that the guardians are racist and can’t be trusted, and such motives for such isolation should be written up as grounds for terminating the ward’s incapacitation order. We need to work together to dismantle this crooked industry. IF you want Netflix, I want to encourage you, Mr. President, to watch Guardians Incorporated, an episode of Dirty Money. It has lots of stories and I’m in contact with several victims featured in the story, including Laura Pebbles Thrash who is suffering because she had Charles Thrash with her, but he is under an evil and corrupt guardianship. The guardians won’t let him see Laura, and she loves Charles a lot, wouldn’t fuck with his money, but really, that’s just one story. My story is just as important, and I got discharged from the guardianship this past December of 2020 before you got sworn in. I think we need to work on ending this industry because it’s akin to slavery and human trafficking. It’s a bipartisan issue that shouldn’t get lost on Congress. Mitch and Chuck should be able to work together and come up with stuff to put in a bill that would severely limit the guardianship issue to people who are at the end of their lives, or solid aggression cases where the juvenile is murdering people, sexual abuse perpetrators, and so on. But we also need to limit how guardians can care for people, including that they can’t touch people’s bank accounts and can’t have assets that the person owns. Wards should have rights, period, and their rights should be verboten and maybe even robust. Even if you try to remove a person’s Constitutional rights, those would be restored after a certain time the juvenile demonstrates that they aren’t murdering people, sexually abusing others, etc. We also need to support black and minority criminals in a rehabilitative, not punitive system. See next thing in this blog here.

The criminal justice system is great, until you are black and blind and or brown or any other minority group. We need to rehabilitate all criminals, especially kids, with temporary natural guardianship for those under eighteen, a chance to live in a foster home setting instead of a damn jail cell. If a teenager needs help, we need to provide social workers and counselors galore for the person. We need to hit home for example, in the line of sex abuse work, that sex offenses are bad, and the teen who exhibits sexual abusive behaviors should be given a chance to change, and be normed and classified and given the all clear if they can demonstrate through behavioral changes and adapting to a new way of thinking that they won’t even think about touching kids. Aggressive teens who date rape should be required to go through the same program with those who molest their sisters. But here’s a catch: don’t make them go on a sex offense list with adults for thirty years. I like the idea of having them on the list of a separate kind, a teenage sex offender registry that ends at eighteen. And if they can demonstrate rehabilitation, then the sex offense data can in some cases be expunged. adults we can keep as is, but if an adult demonstrates properly that they won’t find kids to fuck or go fucking around with teenage girls, then they can definitely be eligible for some more rehab and eventual release from sex offender treatment and listing. Ex post facto punishment doesn’t always work, and I think sex offenders can and will learn new ways of adapting. I’d encourage you to talk to Kay Ivy, and get her to stop castrating males in Alabama. It’s lewd and bad to do such things, and psychologists agree that such conduct being bad, an equally punitive medication method doesn’t work.

I’m not saying pedophiles should be allowed to go free. I want you to understand and emphasize that pedophilia is not a sexual orientation. Predisposed sex predators and pedophiles, female and male respectively, should not ever contact kids again and we should certainly have them on a separate list but the situational folks should be given as much and many chances at rehabilitation as possible, but it’s like you have them on restrictions a lot at first, but little by little, as you did to your sons and daughter, just ease them off when they can be trusted. It’s the same concept as raising a teenager.

I want to emphasize that weed convictions should be erased. There are too many weed convicts who are colored and so on, and the good herb helps me sleep sometimes, so we need to legalize marijuana. Gimme a Marry Jane, okay?

Legal sex work should also be in the cards. Yes, I know how weird and immoral it must sound, but prostitutes sometimes become prostitutes because they have no other choice. We need to protect and legalize this work for women and men 21 years of age or older, if the Conservatives start gawking, and provide ways to get on a license list, and provide a school for potential prostitute students who want to learn how to service people. Lump it in to the hospitality industry if you are wondering. Transgender and gay people can also participate in a school like what I envision, but they have a prostitute school in Spain we could model things after. Just think about what protecting sex workers means. I may have become a sex worker because I had no other choice, and who would hire a blind woman who’s been through waht I have in the regular work sector?

I want to be clear on something. You and I are on no uncertain terms cradle Catholics. I’m not practicing at all, but since you understand Catholicism, I want you to understand that there are reasons why women get abortions. Women need such a thing as an alternative to having the rapist’s baby. We need an abortion because there’s no Brave New World ectogenesis measures like in an electric womb for babies just yet. And we need to use abortion as a tool to free up some space on the planet. I know Christians will gawk at me for saying this, but abortion sometimes saves a woman’s life, and it should be duly noted that the Trump appointees to the bench of the Supreme Court should be put on notice that their policy of making women go get the abortion meds themselves instead of having it delivered is dangerous. They could get harassed and harangued for wanting an abortion, but imagine someone fucked Ashley in the ass and got her pregnant and she didn’t like or trust the guy who did this. Ashley has all the rights of any woman, and should she want to, she should dispose of the thing inside her if she wants, and adoption is an expensive process all golden with white wealthy families taking the lead. Maybe they should allow abortion too, but if Ashley wants one, let her have one. If she chooses, we need to put the baby in a place of safety with a couple, man and man, woman and woman, or man and woman, or whatever, that will care for the child. Ashley is your daughter, and since she is her father’s daughter, she should at least be able to make choices about her body, and it’s her body herself. Let her make the choices she wants, right, Amy? And put Amy Coney Barrett in a state of I am not a handmaid, please. Women don’t need to carry babies they can’t or won’t have, and if physically unable, a woman could die giving birth. That’s dangerous because funerary bills would pile up and if Ashley died while giving birth to a rapist’s baby, what would you do? Don’t answer, just think about it for a split second.

I want to see blind people get an education. And as soon as Covid goes bye bye and this pandemic is under control, please pass legislation and encourage Congress to work on legislation guaranteeing blind kids Braille education. All blind people should learn Braille, regardless of how much or how little vision they have, and should have access to all resources pertaining to Braille at all levels. I have used Braille education to do my schoolwork, classwork and homework, and it’s imperative that we encourage blind kids to go to school with normally sighted kids, but we need to get them educational materials on par with sighted kids too. And yes, blind people need to learn to not just read, but write Braille, and they could also use raised markers to put things on their microwave ovens. Hey I do that. Encourage your secretary of education to do blindness training, and encourage that same person to expand programs for the blind into a federal thing. Whatever you want to do.

Geez, I better quit writing here, but I hope you find this and understand why I’m doing this.

Beth

Moving to Another Country Is Impossible Today

Dear readers,

I came close to thinking that my partner and I could move to a place like Sweden, but then again, there is a problem. My partner has disabilities, so do I. We are both different racial backgrounds, but we manage. The thing that bothers me about today’s Post Covid world … or what will be the post covid world, is that we can’t move. Restricting the movement of Americans in particular will hurt the rest of the planet. Why? Because travel is a moneymaker for some. For others, it’s life and death. Asylum from transgender related hate crimes is something that lots of transgender women need for their own safety. Immigrants from Mexico and Latin America need to come to someplace for refuge and to stay alive. Is it fair that asylum rules from the Trump administration should be implemented? No. Disabled Latinos are unable to receive jobs most of the time, but if America were to be like every other country in the world, we’d require sponsors and jobs.

While the Handmaid’s Tale could unfold if the violence is cured like ham here, especially during Joe’s inauguration, we need to be aware that these violent extremists don’t deserve asylum in Germany or other places. Hey, Angela Merkel said she was sad over the riots, and they were indeed riots. White people think they’re entitled to life itself because they’re white, to be called Miss and Mr. because they’re white. Example of this popped up in a Jack Benny podcast, where his butler, Rochester, who’s black, had to call Jack “Mr. Benny”. Yes, it sounds a bit like respect, but it’s racism. Pure and simple.

In other countries, there’s a racial reckoning too, but at least in Ghana, there hasn’t needed to be anything like the racial reckoning that has occurred in the United States. Ghana was the former slave coast, so I’m wondering if Trenton’s family has some ancestry there. Most African Americans do, at least, have some ancestry in the Ghanian slave coast, or the Ivory Coast. And they developed a culture of their own. While the slave’s Bible was used to oppress blacks, that is here in America, indigenous folks in Canada are going missing or being sterilized, which sucks. If we do or did move to Canada, we’d also need a sponsor and a job. I have a buddy in Canada who’s planning to get her American boyfriend out of here soon. I met this girl at a village Inn not far from my house, or what could have been an IHOP. The girl is pretty interesting I might add, and she’s done some pretty interesting things to make things work. She has a job, and her boyfriend? He’s a software genius and has created his own add ons for the popular screenreader NVDA. For the newbies to this blog, NVDA means non visual desktop access. Back to the topic now.

The thing that bothers me about lost travel opportunities for us Americans is that if my parents had been planning a second Italy trip, I would hope they wouldn’t. Italy is part of the EU and has banned Americans likewise because of Covid 19. My parents probably did take the Italy trip as a way to cement their power over me, which doesn’t seem to add up. Disabled women all over the world are not believed in the realm of sexual abuse, but still I think it could have been loads better in the U.S.

Restricting travel here in the States at a time when riots happen at the Capitol is simply asking for Gilead to come to fruition. Q Anon dudes in bearskin headdresses don’t need places in government. But there’s also a hidden cult called the Word of Faith Fellowship which resides in Spinndale, North Carolina. This church managed to destroy one family, and I read their story. It was awful. Their pastor is a woman who thinks it’s okay to abuse male and female babies and adults alike, blasting them and casting the so called demons out of them. such people don’t need a place in our country’s governing body politic if the cult still even exists. I applaud the survivors of WOF for standing up and speaking out. I applaud America for having religious freedom, but we need to act responsibly with that freedom. This includes putting regs on dangerous cults. I don’t want my kids or myself and my partner to get sucked into a cult, and micro control groups are another problematic thing. It’s this mentality that you can believe what you want without responsibility that sprang into Q Anon and other things.

As for the restricted travel, I feel like if we don’t leave this country, a repeat of the Holocaust could occur. Trenton and I need a place to bunk down and make a family, but there’s a few things I don’t want to happen. I don’t want my kids growing up speaking Swedish, Finnish, or Spanish even. They need to communicate with the family in English, their own obvious lingua franca. If the kids don’t learn English that they can use to communicate with their own parents, they will not succeed at all in family life, I presume. England has banned Americans, and might continue to ban us if we don’t get this covid crap under control. I don’t want to stay here though, with the rioting in the capitol, Pro Trump assholes wandering about my state, and the Prod Boys messing around with things. In any case, I don’t want to be in a situation where the women in this country have no virtually no rights. the Handmaid’s Tale is not irrelevant fiction, and I’m not a vagina flaunting feminist, as one woman might have put it. This woman might have survived sexual abuse, but she’s a self hater for some reason. I can’t comment on her stuff on Facebook without her saying that she thinks that my beliefs are why women don’t get taken seriously. Well, I don’t care anymore. Women need rights, must have rights, and will not escape the patriarchy until we have a right to be heard, believed, and trusted here in the U.S. I can’t justify all the technicalities of staying here any more. Canada might have been an answer, but they closed the border to so many. Trenton could be explicitly targeted for being black, and I’m not putting a target on his back here,, he’s just not that guy in the Hood. And we’re not interested in the Hood. we want to live in a safe place, where there is little chance of a death threat, and if we do get death threats, we need security. We want the city and county of Denver to pay for our security if such things happen. Or we could put the bill on Lakewood or Golden or Littleton. We need to be clear: leaving this country is a conflict we must consider in our minds. If we leave, we could face access barriers everywhere we go, and that means no Alexa skills or Google actions rolled out to us first. Certain songs are walled off in the United States but not other regions. I can’t go without my typical music, but Sweden and Finland have musics different from ours, but the world does not need to wall off music because they should or can. If I moved to Canada, we’d also have a pretty shitty Netflix selection, no Hulu, and no Disney Plus selections we want. Canadian media is different from our own, and we’d never watch Friends again. But what justifies it? If the Boogaloo assholes come knocking, they will take more than my blog away, my body away, and my other life away from me. Boogaloo will also destroy any sense of security I have, deploy methods of exterminating my friends and loved ones, and then they’ll populate Netflix and Hulu with racey content like that found in the Jack Benny show, while funny but still a bit racist. Let’s look at what they could ponder in the film industry.

First, when I was listening to Jack Benny, I noticed that Rochester was driving Jack’s car, and the car was also voiced by the same guy who does Woody the Woodpecker, Mel Blanc. That guy was amazing by the way. Mel made the car noises while you could imagine that Rochester was driving Benny’s car to the studio for the CBS show we would expect. The thing that bothered me was that “Mr. Benny” was what Rochester had to call his employer. What does Trenton’s mom think of this? She’s worked in data entry for years, but does anyone call her employer “Miss” or “Mrs.”? My mother in law should probably know that this sort of race based titling could pop up in the Boogaloo world if they had their way. Q Anon and the white nationalists could deem it inappropriate for Trenton, for instance, to call me simply Beth. Worse, they could say he couldn’t marry me. He’d have to call me “Miss Beth”. Young kids do this to me, but that doesn’t bother me because kids should learn respect as young as possible, but I don’t like to be called Miss or Mrs. Matthews because for one, the Miss part. It’s a foul stench of patriarchal difference between married and unmarried, owned and unowned. Women are not the property of their fathers or husbands, face this. This means that if I legally took Trenton’s name, it would feel like he owned me. But he knows he doesn’t. It’s not a race thing either, it’s a feminist thing. Revolutionary women kept their maiden names, especially Lucy Stone. Who knew.

If I leave the United States, what else would I miss? Well, barbecues and outdoor celebration of July 4 would be a thing of the past. Sure, I would miss the fireworks, but who needs that. What I’m more worried about is the walling off of musics in Canada versus the United States. Example, Google said that Fiddler on the Roof was not available in the United States, which is odd.

Another thing, if I did leave the States, it would be hard to find a country and planetary principality where Trenton is respected along with me. Blindness and all, we deserve respect. We don’t like conspiracy theories, we don’t like things that don’t align with human rights, not up for debate. Please note, we’ve had enough of the travel restrictions, the exploitation of the disabled, and the lawlessness perpetrated by those in the Capitol. Thank you for reading.

Beth

This is How you Form a Trumpist Autocracy … Or Not

Dear readers,

Want to know how to form a Trumpist autocracy? Not. Well, you just saw it on the news today, a bunch of angry people stormed the Capitol because their man didn’t win. First and foremost, that’s like someone stealing the checkerboard because they didn’t win your game of checkers. Or someone telling a football team they sucked and punching them out after they win instead of shaking hands with the footballers after they win. Sadly, people don’t know how to lose. Please, parents, teach your children that losing is okay, but winning is optional. If you don’t win an election, do not under any circumstances insult your opponents. Guess what? I have an example of people accepting defeat.

I was at a sports game with an intramural team or two, and we had an opposing team. Brother jason, a guy who was leading the prayer at the time, actually asked God to bless his opponents on the other team. Guess what? That’s how it’s done. We don’t pray for our opponents to get sick or die, or for people to storm the places where their government is. No, if you want to uphold the government, leave the Congress alone and let them do their job.

The violent incidents at the Capitol actually reminded me of the Handmaid’s Tale, when we could have had the following scenario: we could have had our Constitutional rights suspended under martial law, could have been conscripted as handmaids or in the army to fight a civil war, and worse off, this country could have been split yet again. To those who sought to believe the handmaid’s Tale is irrelevant fiction, you’ve been proven wrong. It almost happened today, but you know what stopped it? Mike Pence had his brain turned on, there was a swift action taken by the national guard people, and the FBI was deployed. Awesome, right? Well, talk about extreme whiner syndrome going on in the privileged class, it was awful. The Handmaid’s Tale could have become a book in which I couldn’t or no one could escape from, a reality that could have meant I was unable to type this blog, my daughters and granddaughters would have not been allowed to learn a skill like typing and reading and writing, and the embroidery would have been required. I don’t want to learn skills that are useful only in a hobby or craft to please a man. I want to participate in politics and government, and I will do so because human rights aren’t up for debate. Here’s what the Conservative side would have done had they done anything.

Probably the first thing on a Republican’s mind is to kill off those who don’t believe in the cause. Usually, a dictator will print up a hit list of people who don’t believe, hunt down those he doesn’t like, and kill them. This happened in Venezuela, and it could have happened here in the U.S. This is unreal.

Secondly, the Conservative angry people would have demanded that transgender and gay people be erased from society. This might have meant the wall, and if you remember watching or reading the Handmaid’s Tale, the wall is where all the bad guys are hung and the girls too. The wall would simply display a symbol on a plaque that would denote the charges the person had been charged with, example includes a pink triangle for being gay. And the person’s body would hang on the wall. This is something we cannot afford.

Thirdly, the Conservative Gilead would include rules for marriage, encourage child marriage, and other problematic cultural traditions. Ayaan Hirsi Ali has been fighting tirelessly for the end of child marriage because when a girl is eighteen, she can get protection if the dude beats her up. Sorry, guys, but gals need protection too. So do young boys. So here’s an act of contrition you need to consider if you think marrying off your girls is a solution. Don’t. Girls need to be able to make choices about their lives when they see fit. This also includes when and where to have children, to have or not to have children, and at what age they marry. I married at 34 years old because I couldn’t do it earlier. My parents denied me that choice because they were stupid. They were toxic and Conservative for the most part. Though my mom was a Democrat, I was frequently called a “baby killer” by Conservative students at THS because I wanted John Kerry to be President, but then I thought about the babies. Now I think babies aren’t the problem or the solution. It’s the women who are the ones who are in most need of care if they don’t want a baby. Babies can kill women more easily if they aren’t placed properly in the womb, and if a woman cannot carry without fear of death, she should abort without question. In any case, Conservative Gileadean society would forbid divorce, abortion, and single motherhood and put all women in a slave class. Blacks would be exterminated, which that would mean the end of me and Trenton altogether. We couldn’t travel to Florida with our own children, who would by this time be considered bastards. Exterminating people like insects is not the solution, but that’s what Trump’s allies wanted. Because of Trump’s visceral lies and threats, now his Twitter is gone, his Facebook blocked. That’s something that the Gilead founders did not have. Thank the Lord above for Facebook and Twitter doing their jobs to keep us all safe. On WordPress, I blacked out people for commenting and getting into the business of my blog unlawfully. I can do it again if I had comments on, but please. IF you read this, comment on Facebook or Twitter.

Thank you for reading this, and if you’re in D.C., stay inside and stay safe.

Beth

Overview of Inclusivity and Religion: Making Spiritual matters a Thing of Inclusion for Disabled Congregants

Dear readers,

I shared Ellen Stumbo’s post from the Mightete, a disabled news org, and she has a lot of things to probably unpack. Thank you for those who saw that story and wished to be a part of my spiritual life. I looked through this blog, and I saw some mistakes I might have made, identifying one man as Somali and another man as not. Who knows, but I want to truly open a timeline and a dialogue with all faiths and religions, notwithstanding the mistakes I made, but I want to put all the stuff I wrote prior to this post in one big summary timeline, and here it is. It includes what you should do with disabled congregants, and this is based on experiences I’ve had with churches.

1. First and foremost, your parking lot and door entrances have to be wide enough for wheelchairs, even if the building is rustic and old. Make some accommodations in your restrooms so that disabled people can use them. Place bars on the walls of each stall, and make the stalls wide enough so that a wheelchair user can use the stalls. Blind people should be able to ID the bathroom with a Braille sign. Place such signage above the door, or by the door on a wall in the alcove’s outer side. That’s how the signage can be easily seen, and I look for signs there. Also, make sure your Braille is proofread by a certified NLS Braille proofist, even if it’s the word handicapped. here’s a funny Braille story to show you why: The Braille sign for “and” is written with dots 1-2-3, then dots 4-6, all put together. it’s a letter y in Braille but written a bit backwards. So the dot combo is 1-2-3-4-6. However, there was a sign that was written with the “ing” sign: the dot 2 was missing from the “and” sign, so the sign that my cane teacher interpreted was the following: “Girls hingicapped.” Be careful with Braille contractions and lettering, and make sure you have a Braille cheat sheet on you to make sure all signage is correctly Brailled. The architecture of this building should reflect inclusivity. For Muslims, make sure the woodoo areas are completely user friendly, and if you insist on women and men being in separate prayer areas, do not use only stairs. Put the women in a place where wheelchairbound sisters can enjoy worship from the same floor as the men, but you must have wider doorways and the woodoo fountains should be at a level that is usable for those sisters who can’t raise their right or left hand to turn on the fountains. Make sure there are places to put shoes where a sister or brother won’t trip. This is something an old friend frequently would talk about while I was present at mosque. For Jewish ceremonies, always include your wheelchair using sisters and brothers, and for those who count themselves as orthodox or Hassidim, always always always have a door open for disabled congregants who want to join in. Even the goyem will admire your inclusivity.

2. When a congregant walks in, make sure you are welcoming to them. For Christian churches, please make sure you have alternatives to hymnals that a disabled person may use, and as a blind person, I wish I had been able to read the words to worship service songs in detail. Give the blind congregant access to the lyrics at worship services ahead of time, or let them hear a recording of the hymns you will be singing in services. For Jewish folks, same sort of thing may apply to shabbats, and for those who hate tech during shabbat, please note that an exception should be made for blind folks using Braille. Braille displays should be used in Hebrew services so they can follow along with the rabbi or congregation cantor, and make sure that the persons leading the choir and rabinical folks know about this stuff. Your Jewish blind congregants should have as much access to Hebrew scripture, Hebrew chorale pieces, and so much more so they can sing and follow along. Of course, young Jewish students should be included in Hebrew school as well, so for teachers of such, make sure your texts are written in appropriately hebrew Braille. it is in my opinion the best way to get a student familiar with the Hebrew language. It’s similar to Arabic, and I’ve seen Arabic Braille written down, but face it, the letters are pretty similar to both Roman and Hebrew script. For religious educators in Catholic circles, you need to consult the publishers of your books. Make sure the Catholic faith textbooks are written for children in Braille, and if you’re a teacher, beg the publisher for the teacher’s edition in the same format. If not Braille, kids and teachers who are blind should be given access to the same materials but in electronic format. If they use a pc or mac with screen readers, the formatting should be excellent, top quality, arranged so that pictures are captioned and labeled accordingly. This also applies to Muslim folks. Sadly, I wasn’t able to participate in Qur’an classes with my sisters in islam, but for the young folks in TAQI, or Tasir Al Qur’an Institute schools, they should be given Braille copies or electronic Arabic and English copies of the Qur’an. This way, as the prophet said, you can still gain knowledge, even if you can’t see it.

3. For all religious centers, babies should be baptized or blessed with the same dignity and pomp as with normal babies.

4. When a kid grows up, and with adults growing in faith, let the person experiment or teach them the science behind the choices they make with procreation. While i’m not a fan of the Catholic or Christian ideological senses of don’t have sex until marriage, please note that disabled children and adults face the most poverty because of that very thing. Disabled men become predators sometimes because they are not taught how to keep their sex organs to themselves, and disabled women get objectified. We need to create a welcoming and safe space for all, including disabled people. All religious centers and community churches should include a consent class, a code of honor and consent for all congregants and brothers and sisters. While islam has strictures of family honor tied right into the religion itself, I would encourage Muslims to research and understand the rules about consent in modern culture. islam must conform to let females make all choices, and even in cultures where this is not the case, females must be able to say no if they see something wrong or abusive about a man. This definitely includes disabled females. I left islam because I didn’t want to have to marry a stranger, and I wasn’t about to get barefoot and pregnant with someone i hardly understood how to please anyway. I would have also had superiority games played on me if I married a sighted guy, which the Muslim brothers suggested. Unfortunately, for these brothers, I married a non Muslim blind guy, and I won’t be coming back. I love my sisters, and I understand if the sisters insist I walk back, but I can’t do any such thing because islam has become a contested religion here in this country. I’ve been disrespected by a doctor who swore i was “pretending to be Arab”, and was trolled on Facebook for this very thing. I don’t subscribe to religious views that contradict my own core beliefs about me, and that should be what matters.

5. When a bride and or grooms and brides or couple comes to you and your religious center for marriage, get their story. If a couple wanting to wed is disabled, offer the commitment ceremony option first. I want to shout out to Jenny, my minister from Jefferson unitarian Church. I wanted a woman minister to lead my wedding commitment ceremony because I was not, I repeat not, going to submit to a man in everything, and I was just about done with the patriarchal … dare I say it? Bullshit. patriarchs like some of the priests that abuse women and boys should never be allowed to do weddings anyway. If a bride or groom is not supported because of financial disability, physical disability, or anything else, offer to pay for everything. St. Bernadette’s Catholic church paid for the catering of the wedding of a dear friend of mine, but the bride also had the support of her family. Since Trenton and I did not have the support of church and family, and the pandemic had ruined all churchgoing plans, jenny came by our apartment and we had no ring bearer. We also had a guy doing camera angling for the phone. I recorded my commitment ceremony on Facebook Live. It was a beautiful ceremony, and I honestly wish I had more support, but it was true to us. We had a biblical reading of course, but we also had a wisdom reading from another spiritual source, something I really wish other Christians would consider. Weddings are an important part of life as a human being, and even if the bride is incapacitated, offer the support she needs to fight back and marry the man she loves. I had no support, and now I’m having to sue my own family for damages related to the guardianship. They are very hostile if confronted, but they don’t get it. They never wanted me to legally get married, and I didn’t, but I’m still committed to Trenton and will stay that way for life. Anyway, i’m glad I did my own wedding, but with church supports and no pandemic, it could have been better.

6. Offer support for disabled adults wishing to integrate kids into the mix. Whether the family is getting started or has been started, please, please welcome disabled people’s kids. Baptize them or commit them or dedicate them as above, if they consent. In most Protestant churches, baptism must be given if faith is strong enough and if you’re eighteen. Also, scriptural abuse cannot be tolerated whether it’s committed against the parental couple or the kids themselves. For parents everywhere, disabled or not, always have an open line of communication with your kids about sex abuse and spiritual abuse. If your child is abused spiritually by a church, leave that congregation immediately.

7. If a parent with disabilities wants to know how their kid is doing in spiritual circles, they need to ask about it. Churches should be a welcome and safe space for all kids, including those with disabilities and colored folks, any stripe and color included but not limited to black, brown, polka dots, purple, etc.

8. If the parent of a disabled congregant in your church dies, be with the person and show them the grieving process. Give them bereavement resources in your spiritual center, and let them come to you for guidance. As a minister or cleric in your spiritual center, you should be a good ear to bounce off all the stuff the child or young adult is facing in the death of their loved one. If the disabled adult is facing terminal conditions related to their disability, give them the hospice resources they deserve. Give them a good sendoff whether they are nonbinary or otherwise. Islam insists on strict gender conformity, but to those who practice Native beliefs, the two spirit people should be honored above all else. For those who are nonbinary who were shunned from communities for being nonbinary or LGBTQ+, please note that there are people who won’t condemn you to hell, so if you’re on the heaven bound train, find the right person for your funerary care. It will be worth your while.

9. Never put any sort of discipline in place that would disfavor disabled adults who are living in houses outside marital status with someone of the opposite sex. Trenton and I were abused and frequently targets of sin related comments from my former church. I feel that all churches should discipline anyone who abuses a disabled woman and calls her a whore, not blame her for being a whore at all. Churches must if anything have a discipline system in place to keep predators from working with youngsters, but above all, they should never define marriage as between a man and a woman who is able. Ableist marriage practices in churches make marriage difficult, along with those financial penalties from SSI. Please beware the issues we disabled people face.

10. Never tell someone they can’t come back because of their disability, and don’t make them confess sins they didn’t commit. I can’t fess up to sins, I didn’t commit the sins of being sexually abused. that’s not a sin. A sin is what my exes have done. Not my living with Trenton, not my commitment to him either.

Thank you all for reading this, and I hope you enjoy the blog further.

Beth

Congratulations, Kamala

Dear Miss harris,

Yes, this is something I’ve always known i would be doing, writing a letter in my blog to you. I want to first congratulate you for winning the election because little girls, especially brown and black ones, will be extremely proud to have a girl like them on top. Almost. But here’s what you need to do. These are things you and Joe need to work together on, and some of this overlaps with Joe’s letter i threw at this blog.

First and foremost, work with Congress on corona virus relief. We need our IHOP and other restaurants to stay open and prepared for the crowds. In order for this to happen, we need a national mask mandate, period. No ideological weirdness or anything.

Work with Joe on ending the Muslim ban. Joe will certainly do this because the Muslim ban is racist bullshit designed to prevent so called terror attacks, which it only made white supremacy worse. We can’t have these white supremacists messing about in our country, especially the Boogaloo Boys and other groups that purport to be American and patriotic. They’re not. They will target you and Joe and others, so just be on your toes.

Please make sure Congress confirms all the cabinet positions Joe wants. He needs an education secretary that doesn’t sell kids to Bethany Christian services. This is serious business, and we need to black history the hell out of education, so to speak. What I mean is that we need to teach black history, LGBTQI+ history and other histories through the eyes of historians who live it. We’re all historians, and Joe’s pick for education secretary is important in this case.

Please, whatever you do, make sure the disabled are top priority for considerations we need to initially work on. The thing we need to do is mentioned in Joe’s letter. Please raise the resource limit for SSI and SSDI recipients, give them the right to marry without penalty, and don’t mess with Medicaid because disabled people are married. We need family medicaid plans that help us maintain health, especially for us females who’ve been abused most of all. As a woman who is blind, I was abused emotionally and psychologically for fifteen years, lawyers tricking me into not fighting the abusive guardianship that was put on me. Guardianships by the way should be illegal, period. Please, Kamala harris, whatever you do, don’t enable these abusers to continue their abuse. Females of color with disabilities are counting on you.

You and Joe need to fix the entire foreign policy situation, but you also need to reverse the policies on disabled immigrants. Many countries require all their citizens to work or don’t have resources to educate their disabled kids or help disabled veterans of their wars. We in America have opportunities we should be sharing, not denying, disabled people. Please beg the Congress to consider what needs to happen to make America truly safe and diverse again.

As a blind woman, people might think it is impossible for me to have kids without risking the kids’ sight. Well, let’s put things in perspective. As a blind person who knows, I know that my blindness was not caused by genetic things that could be passed down to another offspring. The chances of having a baby who’s blind are slim, slim to none. Therefore, I’d encourage you to look at disabled women as women, period, and promote policies that allow such women to decide when and whether to have children. Disabled women are counting on you as well. Disabled men can be good fathers, and I’d encourage you to set up policies that encourage disabled men to be responsible fathers, and the nondisabled partners of such men to not block these men out of their kids’ lives. I have a friend who sadly doesn’t support you that needs a policy like this. I have other friends who have not been allowed countless hours of parenting time with their kids. Here we have disabled dads and moms denied the chance to parent, so please, protect disabled people’s right to parent.

Reverse Buck Versus Bell, whatever you do. Do not allow this caselaw to continue unchecked. My partner and I want babies, sure, but we don’t want a Carrie Buck to happen to me. Trenton would be upset if someone removed our baby.

Anyway, I’d like to thank you for accepting the victory and Joe is going to be awesome. They say in Africa, behind every successful man, there’s a successful woman. I want you to do something to make sure Obama’s legacy is not ruined either. That means healthy lunch items, no more Trump posted cafeteria foods either. No more of the Donald’s hateful crap. I’d like to draft a way to get something done about hate groups driving our opposition too.

While I have lots to share, I have to end here. Please accept my thank yous and be the best vice president you can be.

Beth Taurasi