I was watching an SVU fierce women episode, something about a female gamer named Reina. No, not a famous Reina anyone knows on any social media platform, but the name was supposed to be of a female gamer CEO who launches a video game called Amazonian Warrior. In the episode, people threaten and harass this character, and she receives sexually violent threats and threats of harm and such. Ladies, if you’re going through things like this, always remember a few different rules:
- Trolls are bad.
- Trolls like to be right all the time, but they’re really not.
- Trolling gives the troll a sense of so called power and control, something I’ve written about extensively.
Now, ladies, listen up. If you want men to silence you, skip this. But if you want a man to listen, read on.
I recommend that first and foremost, watch for trolls and hateful comments on all platforms, especially Facebook, Tumblr, Instagram, and Twitter. If you’re excited about that latest Xbox game but guys are calling you fake, if you’re dying to see the cover art and make fancy portraits of it, or if you’re that awed by the latest Battle Toads or that new game starring … what’s his name? Reeves? Whatever, that game called Cyberpunk. If you’re that excited, be that way, and don’t be afraid to show it. But first, if you want to be smart, follow these steps.
- Do not allow hateful people to comment on your post without tearing it up. I tore at trolls in the past, and I think for the most part it worked. Trolls should be lurking in caves in Norway, in folklore stories, not lurking around the Internet harassing women. So put the troll in his place by calling anything out you want to call out: bad English, bad use of a picture, anything you don’t like and especially if the trolling is xenophobic, anti LGBTQI+, or sexist.
- Make sure to report the comment to the appropriate platform. Facebook might not listen as much unless you repeatedly report a commenter for being hateful and posting hate speech. Please read Facebook’s hate speech guidelines. They are pretty narrow and pretty good with what hate speech is and what it does. If I wrote something like what was written on Reina’s page in the SVU episode, I would surely be kicked off Facebook in a heartbeat. So, I won’t bother demonstrating anything. What I will do is demonstrate what good online citizenship looks like for women and men alike.
- If you receive any threats of violence against you, whether you’re a female CEO or COO or whatever, or if you created a video game yourself, make sure you report the threats to the law enforcement department in your area. The United States departments of law enforcement are amazingly well trained, for the most part, in dealing with these types of threats. If you’re not comfortable with your local PD, please go to your local FBI office or another PD but be careful to warn the PD from the commenter’s home state about this. I was threatened by Jason Owens, and the cops went to my home, and the weird thing was that he did get away somehow. Cops could not find Jason, but I showed Denver PD a threatening letter I got from Jason, whose contents I forgot what they were, but they seemed threatening. I followed the instructions of the cop and wrote to Jason at his email address he wrote me on, telling him NEVER to contact me again. That solved the problem, at least temporarily. I wanted him to understand that he had crossed essential boundaries with me, and tried to put a stop between me and his then girlfriend, the late Jennifer Weaver. This story is not meant to frighten anyone, but demonstrates the importance of having the boys in blue on your side of the fence. Now, if anyone like Mesa PD, who shot and killed a friend’s sister, was present, I’d be a bit jittery. So FBI offices and cyber crime divisions are likely candidates for cases like mine or your case involving video game harassment.
I would show you guys the threatening emails I got but they’re gone. But what I’m saying here is that any threat of violence should be taken to the law enforcement folks;. Only the ones you are comfortable with. There are many ways you can help others deal with this problem. The big thing is if you see something, say something. If you see a hateful comment on someone’s social media platform, be like my friend Ayla and say something. She said something along the lines of a certain comment was transphobic, and I backed her up. Anyway, thank you all for reading, and for more on hate speech and terms of service, simply go to the bottom of Facebook, Twitter, or any other social media site.