First and foremost, to the commentor who called me a spoiled brat, stop it and realize what you’re doing wrong. I’ve had to delete that commment because blind brides should be paid for by their fathers, even my friend’s wedding puts mine to complete shame. He had family support on the bride’s end, and he had someone for the roles that both he and bride wanted. He also had retirement savings, higher payments, all that. He even had a church that supported him. Where’s the memory in a $30 piece of paper that just simply says you’re married? Nothing. But this comment you wrote, ma’am, was unacceptable and inexcusable. You anna read this blog? Don’t start calling me things I’m not, and realize that you are not good for the community because you called me names. Sppoiled brats are rich, snobbish, and altogether Jersey Shore. I live in a ghetto, practically a barrio if you want to be technical, in a low income apartment. I can’t afford anything beyond bills, and if I want to save, I’m lucky if I can save anything. Trenton is lucky if we can plan for large purchases, things like the technology we use. Unfortunately, my iPod broke and I can’t afford a warranty or AppleCare on it so if I wanted to get the screen popped back into place, I’d have to pay wads of cash I don’t have. For the same amount, I’m better off just buying an iPad. Who cares.
As for the wedding, we can’t save up for any wedding related things because we’re in the process of moving to a nwe apartment, and what’s the fun in saving when you know you have to pay for a mover because nobody wants to move your furniture? I will not be able to haul a queen sized bed to another location without a truck, something I can’t drive. So there you have it, that is why I asked others to pay for wedding expenses. $5 is not ever gonna cut it because even a basic dress does not fit within a budget hat includes a $400 rent, $37 utilities/electricity and we already dropped down to basic or cable, but we need the landline phone because 911 on cell phones is unreliable. Have you hard Jeff Rossen? He did a Rossen reports on that.
And you think there are underlying issues that lead a hite trash couple to hold guardianship deliberately over a blind child? Or rather an adult child? Some of you are completely skewed in your views. Here’s the truth.
My parents could have saved money by sending me to public school, and sent that extra private school investment the made into violin lessons, and I could have been a violinist in a local symphony orchestra. They denied me the music, instead putting me in a church school where a religious framework was desired. It is not a viable option. Before you say, oh, you’re lucky you had private school and all this, think about why private school is a bad option. Besides the thing about them kicking out people who misbehave, private schools have nothing of substance. Morality textbooks are biased and have no clue as to the ableist nonsense that my parents later claimed. It was because of their desire to control, cajole, and urther abuse, that I later decided to have sexual relations outside of marriage. Besides, in my mind, when was marriage to take place? I am not Christian anymore as I write this because sex outside marriage was the only way I could touch the ground without breaking what my parents thought would be law. They made me look like an exceptional case at Colorado Center for the Blind, and expected me to commit to their desires, which I refuse. I graduated without a scaled back dinner, thank God, and tha was harder. But it was worth it. One thing I’ll take away from CCB: I’m never cooking for 70 or 50 people again. EVER!
Why? Because it’s a lot of work, and besides, I don’t live in a polygamous or large family. The most I could cook for might even be 4 people. I could do 13. My aunt has nine children, so she has to have skills to cook for at least 30. But I’m not going to pop out nine, so I’m hoping never to have to use the skills to cook for 30. Besides, I have no privilege.
Spoiled indicates that I have privilege. So to the one who calls me spoiled, try living like me for a few days, with a family who pulls stunts on you and says, oh, btw, your brother’s getting married. I have no respect for someone who pulls that on me, and I wasn’t exactly invited anyway. Besides, I would have warned Laura the bride in this case that her in laws are white trash. White trashy people should never get their way. And callng someone spoiled ultimately makes you look good? Wrong. Besides, my friends don’t like the person who did this, and I won’t name names. Why? Because I’m a better person than this.
Thank you all for reading, and if you’d like to offer a more supportive comment, then do so but be warned. Any comment implying privilege will be deleted.