Qualities of a Good Leader

Dear Readers,
I want to first give a correction or two to myself. Domestic violence, as my friend Jennifer said, does not only occur between married couples or just men to women. Yes, some of us women can’t hold down what we’re so mad about. Yes, even kids do this too. However, I do think that a domestic violence prevention class is in order for all married couples, both homosexual and heterosexual, preparing for marriage. I wouldn’t mind seeing that as a requirement in all churches, and men being required to, as the so called heads of families, listen as the qualities I’m about to name are exhibited or shown to them. Men sometimes don’t know how to lead a family or can’t for whatever reason. I’ll talk more about that later.
However, domestic violence prevention classes and trainings should indeed entail that all the married couples learn who’s at risk, what the facts and figures are, and so on. I’ll tell you who’s at risk: African American males are at risk because so many of them end up in prisons for one reason or another, including domestic violence; disabled kids are at risk of being abused victims; white women married to African Americans run the risk of being abused due to some men’s perceived enslavement of white women as being a good thing; some white men in extremist cults such as the one until recently operated by the notorious Warren Jeffs and group; parents and children in poverty have a significant risk of falling into the domestic violence’ grasp. Now, to do some of the class, I think the ones who are likely to be responsible would need to be taught the following qualities of a good head of family:
1. A good family head should listen to his family under people. He should look at what his people have. He needs to ask himself in all purchasing decisions: “Can my disabled kid use this?” Or he could ask, “Can I afford it AND will the disabled kids use it?” Or can this piece of equipment not get in the way of disabled guests and friends? Most of the time, accessible stuff is good for everybody, not just disabled kids and adults. We learned this in the NFB, and it really does make sense.
2. A good family head never hits his wife and children.
3. A good family head, if alcoholic or addicted to drugs, always goes to meetings about said addiction, and if need be, comes in with a relapse prevention plan. I’ve seen this firsthand.
4. A good family head does not put himself above every other person in his presence. For example, I made the tough decision not to be with a sighted man. Why? Because sighted men drive cars. Sighted men can buy things and get jobs, but a blind man doesn’t often have those things. Sighted men could use gender and disability to force his wife to do as he wants. Blake, time and time again, has proven that he is better than the sighted. Why? Because though he can’t drive a car out in the highways and without a license, he knows that the kind of location is important to me and him both. It helps that Blake is on the playing field with me in a sense of equality. We both are in terms of blindness equals, and because we are equal before the law and ourselves, Blake does not see that the pretty house is better than the practical house. However, sighted men may say, “This has all the beds and baths we need. I’m buying it.” Well, you need to figure out where things are, check out the bus service in that area, etc. I would never buy a house unless I knew it was in a location near my work site, had all the access things a kid or two needed, or guests in wheelchairs could come and mingle in the building. I would never walk a narrow street again. A good leader understands this, and I learned in girl scouting that a good leader listens to her folks being led by her decisions. I wish Hillary Clinton would be the better person in that thing with her weird husband Bill. Why is she sticking with a man who so claims he’s unfaithful to her? A good leader doesn’t put up with that. If I were President, Blake being the first Dude, I’d never let him out of the First Dude’s office. Not without telling me he flirted with girls, but if he started having affairs with other women, I would confront him first. Something like, “Why are you lying to me about this lady?” What if it were a Monica Lewinski lady? Someone blonde and worse yet, a white house intern? I’d be darned if I heard Blake tell me he hated me, that he’d rather be with some intern with blonde hair and big boobs. I’m just using Blake as an example. IF he pulled a Bill Clinton, I wouldn’t put up with that. This happens so much in families with political standing. And yet, Hillary is putting up with Bill. Oh, Mrs. Clinton, do something before Bill does it again. HE better be faithful to you or else. The good thing is that the daughter, Chelsea Clinton, has nice hair and good features and a good career ahead of her. She’s having a baby!
Ok, but those qualities of a good head of family go further. Another quality is that heads of family do not have to be male. True heads of families should possess the qualities I just went over. And one more thing, no head of family should put up with unfaithfulness or be unfaithful as in the case of Bill and Hillary. Hillary scares me, honestly. I’d rather vote for Elizabeth Warren. What a woman!
Anyway, Mary is about to walk in the door.

Author: denverqueen

My name is Beth. I'm blind from birth and enjoy the blogging atmosphere. I am a creative person, a musician, a writer, etc. This is me. Take it or leave it.

3 thoughts on “Qualities of a Good Leader”

  1. Well said beth! there’s one thing I will add though. it may be off the domestic violence topic but you can understand it’s still important. As far as rape and sexual abuse are concerned the media always goes on about men raping women and girls is always dominating the media news. (I’m not saying it is big news) however, sex offenders and paedophiles are prodominatly male but the reality is I learnt that sex offenders and paedophiles can be female too which for the most part one never thinks about. I’m only putting my 2 sence in here but it’s only my view The thing that gets me is my cousin doesn’t really like kids and she says she hates men, and feels intimidated by girls her own age each time we go somewhere with her that’s both our mothers and us she spots somebody in a clown suit and shrinks back and averts her eyes I’ve got an idea of what happened to her in her past but I dair not even entertain those things. Getting back to what it was that I found disturbing well there’s two things she’s said that I found a little odd to say the least. Firstly we’d gone to my grandmother’s house to take some personal items of my grandmother’s that she asked mum and I to mind while she went to see her son interstate. We come out of the house and there are kids at the child minding complex behind the house and my cousin says “I feel like a paedophile watching those kids” I thought that was disturbing as I said earlier I’d always associated paedophilia as being something males often committed. The second thing she said was about the link between resentment and cancer I don’t know where my cousin got this from because she spends a lot of time alone reading and doesn’t want to be disturbed my aunt happened to be visiting at this time and she couldn’t believe what was just said we asked her to justify what she said and she couldn’t. Anyway this is totally off topic.


  2. There’s nothing off topic about such a post comment. I should also point out that a good leader does not molest children or make such decisions to look at kids that way. Blake has proven time and time again that Head Start students aren’t his “tragets.” He has proven so many times he’s great, but there’s nne thing I dislike: he just told me today that if I don’t take meds and if I go off the deep end, he’d break up with me. There’s a problem with that: who will support me if Blake breaks up with me? It’s dastardly if a man threatens or puts up any kind of ultimatum against a woman with disabilities and a mental illness. It’s like he’s saying, “Learn to see and make your body do things I want or I’m done with you.” As supportive as I’ve seen him be, I don’t want him to take that support and lavish on another girl with it because I have a disability or mental “disease.”


  3. Beth, I never thought in my mind that Blake would say such a thing I really hope that he doesn’t break up with you I’m not going to question anything here I suppose I’d rather ask any questions if there are any via Skype but I’d apologise in advance if said questions were personal but altermatums are not the answer to anything. Having said that, we’ve all said things in the heat of the moment when we’re not in full control of our emotions What worries me is whether you had a fight or an argument for him to say that Sending hugs your way beth as always. keep your chin up hon,


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